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Escaping from the behaviours of the modern society

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by Krillin1993, Apr 29, 2020.

  1. Krillin1993

    Krillin1993 Fapstronaut

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    This video describes so perfectly, how our society tend to be. They always follow labels and brands, buying always the newest and expensive technology every year, all these exsessive parties, drinking alcohol and smoking cigarettes, consuming porn, and seeking always after sexual desire. And if one thing is not enough for them to feel satisfied they are going to buy the next thing. It is quit similar like cheating in a relationship. If somebody finds the sex with their partner boring or not satisfying, they seek after another one, or they just break up,.....in those relationships you were treated like an object to take and buy and been sold whenever you want.
    There are so many wrongs in our society.
    But what makes me confused is why people buy these lies that someone can be beautiful just with going under the knife with plastic surgery and modifying needlessly the faces of thousands of woman and also men. If we shame people just by their appearance and by their looks then we can't offer them happiness. Just an ill mentality offers illness, cause they haven't learned the other way. People let other people suffer intentionally or unintentionally. All these fashion labels and of course the porn industry wants to see them both woman and man to look like these models and porn actors/actresses. People have to learn to accept themselves. People have to learn that consumerism doesnt replace your real needs. You are wasting your money and your time and your energy. No matter which topic it is: Drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, eating alot of unhealthy food, consuming porn, masturbation on a daily basis, having alot of sex out of desire, wishing bigger butts, bigger breasts, a smaller nose, the newest iPhone, the newest flat screen, the newest Ferrari car, and all these others brands. You can escape from them. You can live without them.
    And if you are a woman or a man and are concerned about your face You dont need to do surgery just because another guy likes you more. I have heard recently a real story about a woman in germany who are crying just because the man wants to see bigger boobs every morning. The woman was so desperate that she has to call a night talk radio programm what she actually should do. She was so unsure if she should have bigger breast or not just to please her man.
    This is not true love. You dont need it to do for others neither for yourself. If you truly look deep into yourself, you know that you have to accept your body. Accepting your body is loving yourself and loving yourself is true love.
     
  2. desmondmiles

    desmondmiles Fapstronaut

    A lot of what you described isn't a societal issue, that's just being human and the way nature works.

    People have a psychologically built in desire for novelty, that's actually what makes porn so interesting to us as humans. There's always something new and exciting out there to look at. That's why porn mags didn't have the same effect, you would flip through it once and then you'd seen everything, it wasn't exciting anymore.

    As far as people desiring certain traits in women, or a certain type of beauty, I agree that porn and our society's idealized vision of beauty certainly has a negative impact on it. But at the same time, what we call 'beauty' is our built in ability to find woman that we feel to be a compatible mate and who would be best for reproduction. Younger, wide hips, clear skin, all of these things are indicators of health and capability to reproduce. That's why we think it's 'beautiful'.

    People buy into those 'lies that someone can be beautiful just with going under the knife' because quite frankly, not everyone is a supermodel, and in a society where men and women alike are consumed by these idealized views of beauty in the media, they have to do that to be competitive. That's just reality. It's not about accepting yourself.

    It's great if you accept yourself, that's wonderful. Nobody's saying it's not. But that doesn't mean men are going to see these women any differently just because they 'accept themselves', it's unfortunate, but it's true. True love is hard to come by.
     
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