Ending Femdom / Other Compulsive Behaviors

I too have a BD_SM fetish. You can read about it in my journal: https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/ulysses-resists-ongoing-journal.356154/page-2#post-3727523
I would suggest first, cutting off your access. Refuse to contact any of the people you have acted out with, delete their numbers. Remove your apps, phones, computers, install filters, whatever you can do. I like Covenant Eyes because it can send screens to your accountability partner.
Next get some sobriety. The benefits are real. The more sober time I have the more clearly I think about all these issues.
As you see in my post, I like to look at the root causes of my fetishes. Why am I drawn to this? What were the my childhood wounds that I may be acting out here, or maybe trying to compensate for?
Decide once and for all you are done with these fetishes. Turn your back and say it's not for me.