When i learned about Porn addiction and how it affected me, i immediately decided to quit it. It took me 1 month to control myself and finally i had a successful 200 days of no PMO. But after that i committed a big mistake and MO'ed one day and eventually it led to watching porn again. Since then it has been a year that i am unable to quit it again even after trying my level best to abstain. I am not able to achieve the level of motivation with which i completed my 200 days of no PMO. I have never posted anything on any forum before but since it is getting out of my hands now and i am really depressed about it, so i decided to seek some help. Please suggest me what to do so that i can have the same motivation like i had before, and again abstain from PMO.
Abstinence do not equal recovery!! Read this post it might give you answer you are seeking for. http://yourbrainonporn.com/my-thoughts-rebooting-extremely-long-post
spreadsheet and counter are two separate things. You can create counter(s) here (https://pmo-tracker.appspot.com).
Avenger the answer is don't touch yourself at all!! I know that can be hard but so is always suffering with a chaser effect from fapping. Chaser effect usually lasts 3 days after edging. Believe me edging is actually worse than MO'd because edging is reaching just before climax then continually building oneself up to almost climax over and over again. The longer someone masturbates the more dopamine gets released in the brain and you want to avoid this. Completely NoFap bro, that is the only way to do this. 200 days is a long time but you can do this again just this time don't masturbate at all, it's the only way to get a full reboot.
thanks for your suggestion. Now a days i feel very depressed, i lost my job and also my relationship is going through a very thin phase. Sometimes its very difficult to control myself as i look to porn as a stress reliever. I am trying to get a new job but being idle is bit depressing. Still i am trying my best not to PMO. Its been 3 days since i last PMOed, Not feeling very good but still better.
No buddy, there's no need to login everyday. Hope things get better for you, losing a job and having relationship issues can be stressful. Do you go to sleep at normal times? I'm just wondering because when i'm up late at night, i'm most likely to relapse than at any other time of the day. I'm trying to get to sleep before 10pm and get at least 8 hrs sleep a day. Most of the times i've relapsed were when I was low in energy, stressed, depressed or bored.
You are right buddy, feeling of depression, stress or boredom always leads to relapse. I just need to overcome these feelings. And i am trying my best.
Doing reboot is a very hard thing. I lost again. The feeling to MO overpowers everything and my mind gets lost. Will start again with a new hope and get through it.
good luck buddy. I am experiencing the same thing. You need to rewire your brain. At the end of the day think of something that went good. Write it up. Try to stay positive and accept that life isn't perfect and that we have to face the music sometimes.
Thanks buddy. I feel my mind is blocked and there is nothing else then watching porn that can release my stress. But i am trying to make my mind stronger and not think of it at all. Its tough but i will do it.
That's what we unknowingly taught our brains to "think". Making the mind stronger is a first step, and an essential one. But make sure you don't overlook bringing positive change to your life so that it's not only about a beefy mind that can stop any surge : Think of the flood levees that eventually all become useless when exceptional events happen, what's going to be left if your life is as vulnerable as it is now? Keep strong!
I understand your situation. Losing my job and having a stressful homelife sent me into a downward spiral that I am still trying to get out if 15 years later. My best advice is get into therapy - soon! Many people quit or say therapy doesn't work because therapy is like dating, you have to find someone you"click" with. You might have to go through a handful of therapists until you find the right one (my count is 5!). My therapists didn't really "fix" me, but at least she acts as a stopgap for me sliding any farther down the rabbit hole. I started taking depression meds (Pax*l) and gained 100 pounds. Which, in turn, made me more depressed. Which in turn led to more and more PMO and overeating. Gee, I am a cautionary tale, aint I? My point is...get into therapy, it helped me put the brakes on. YOU have to take the next steps. I was finally so disgusted with my life, it was either end it, or do something. Fortunately, I've chosen the latter and therapy has helped me keep my sh*t together. Good luck to you! I am new here, but everybody is really supportive and non-judgmental. Peace.
That is your addicted brain rationalizing that masturbating to porn has a benefit. In truth, it doesn't. Just look at how much stress you are under because you are masturbating and watching porn! Google 'stress relief' there are better, more effective ways. Choose one or two that suit you.
thanks everyone for your support. Today i got a deep urge to PMO. For couple of times i opened some soft stuff on youtube and was again about to step on the same path. But the good thing is, I was able to control myself both the times and PMO didnt happen. I feel it will make my mind more strong and i concentrate on other important things other than this shit.
