I am almost at the 2 months nofap mark. I´ve seen benefits like: more energy and motivation; deeper voice; rock hard morning woods; vivid dreams; figure out why I am constantly failing in my life (job, relationships and stuff like that); girls checking me out more; less depressed and more sociable; able to understand people´s feelings; find women beautiful no matter what imperfections and i am really attracted to them and I figured out how much I love women. But during this time I´ve realise something. Whenever I have stronge urges, I feel really anxious the next day. It´s because of the dopamine effect. I know my brain is not yet in harmony because of my time of porn and poisoning it with baths of dopamine. So whenever I have strong urges that keep me from sleeping at night I feel very anxious the next day and also my morning woods usually subsides for like 2 days. So whenever I feel them I do pushups so my mind changes focus. This rebooting process is hard guys. The more time the urges take, stronger are the side effects. So I am avoiding edging at all cost.
I think I edged for 8 years or so. I always found it easy to cum so I found wanking for 5-10 minutes too short lived. I learned about edging from trying it and sometimes would masturbate for 4-5 hours at a time, with any feeling of orgasm stopped by me stopping. Then I'd rest and continue. It's so unnatural!
Hi @Tmetostop. Some men attempting the rebooting process believe that as long as they avoid ejaculation, they are successfully rebooting. This twisted logic leads them to endorse an unhelpful practice common to Internet porn users, called edging. This is masturbating up to the edge of orgasm, then stopping to cool things down, then revving up again. Read more here: http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/what-if-i-use-porn-without-orgasm
Thanks IGY, I guess I've done this a few times. Now that I know this is not good for reboot I will avoid it. It's hard sometimes not to
I did the exact same thing. Just to get that dopamine, don't cum and restart. This was my final stage of pmo. I couldn't get a normal erection and my blatter was leeking. Damn...
Proud of you! And you're mindset is great. Whenever you start edging you are actually masturbating. And you give your mind permission to fuck around and tells you '' you are already edging lets just come''.. Keep going, you're doing a great job bettering your life!
tks! and yeah sometimes I catch myself thinking about sex and stuff like that and I know I have to stop but my brain keeps asking for me to do it. It´s wierd because it´s like me and my brain are two separate things. even knowing i should avoid them i´ve seen progress even in my thoughts. sometimes, even not horny, i can get an erection just by imagining talking to a girl and then kissing. I don´t even thing about the other making up stuff and sex. just a kiss is enough. Porn turns us in empty men. is like we lose our souls. we can´t feel anymore nor connect with people.
True that. I am also experiencing the separated mind. It's normal for rebooting from an addiction. With your vision you should be able to cure from the pmo.
one think i know is that even if i get "cured" I´ll never be totally cured. I have to be always cautious. i´ve always been attached to the feeling that the dopamine gives. even when i didn´t watch porn. I´ve always had this huge sex drive so it´s hard for me. i just have to learn how to channel that energy in other areas of my life
I believe ''once an addict always an addict''. The pathways can always rewire in your brain. That's wy we have to be cautious.
Whenever you start edging you are actually masturbating - so, true @Larry! Actually, edging is orgasm control. But the means to that end is masturbation. But because our brains will bring their formidable resources to bear on the matter of dopamine binging, we find ourselves rationalising. As the scientist Gary Wilson said, administrator and the founder of http://www.yourbrainonporn.com, which I quoted in post #4, trying to reboot from porn by edging is "a twisted logic"! As you read further on in his post, it becomes clear that the very worst thing you can do when trying to reboot from porn addiction is... edging. Yes, it is masturbating but so much worse than simply going to the point of orgasm until you cum.
