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ED because of PIED or Perfomance Anxiety?

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by Srle993, Oct 30, 2023.

  1. Oct 30, 2023 #1
    Srle993

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    Hello everyone,

    I've been in a relationship for six years. When I first met my girlfriend, I was a virgin at the age of 25. Our initial attempts at sex were frustrating because my ... didn't always cooperate, and it left me feeling confused. Even now, six years later, I still face this issue. I don't feel anxious when I'm about to be intimate with her – we've been living together for four years, and we do have successful sexual encounters, although they can be inconsistent. It usually works when I use sildenafil, but occasionally, it works without it.

    Strangely, I find that I prefer masturbating (typically 2-3 times a day). Even though my girlfriend is very attractive, I still find self-pleasure more appealing. What I've noticed is that my most successful sexual encounters occur when I haven't masturbated the day before. There are also times when my ... isn't as firm during masturbation, except when the content I'm watching contains particularly arousing moments.

    I do experience morning erections, and they are as strong as if I were on sildenafil. Currently, I'm trying the NoFap challenge. I've had a few relapses, but I'm determined to make progress. I hope to achieve more days without giving in to the temptation of self-pleasure.

    What you think does Perfomance anxety cause this, or pornografy, or both?
     
    Srle993, Oct 30, 2023
    Srle993, Oct 30, 2023
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  2. Oct 30, 2023 #2
    UnholyConfessor

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    Honestly it could be a bit of both. You experiencing morning erections tells me your problem is not anything so severe that it cannot be fixed with a bit of work on your end. Masturbating 2-3 times a day is quite a lot, so you're right to try and cut that out as much as possible. What I'd recommend you do is abstain from any kind of release for around a week or two, then attempt sex. Take it slow, see what happens. You'll probably ejaculate very fast but that's fine. Meanwhile DON'T go back to masturbation. I'd also try to figure out what is actually giving you performance anxiety in the first place. Masturbation clearly seems to be making it worse, but it may not be the root cause.
     
    UnholyConfessor, Oct 30, 2023
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