Dumped a year ago Still having memories and feelings

There you go, you said it

Don't stress to much. Many are in the same boat and remember great times they where with their other half and feel like everything happened yesterday. I know how it sucks to feel guilty, remorseful and depressed after a bad breakup.

Be mindful, it won't take too long till your feelings for her will cease to an end. And that's a promise!

 

I was heartbroken 9 years ago. Thought about her obsessively 24/7 since then because of pmo keeping me from progressing and maturing in life, and inducing countless dysfunctions. My pmo addiction got deeper when she devastated me. But discovering ybop and nofap a few months ago and doing hard mode no pmo streaks (longest was almost 3 weeks), I found that almost a week into it, that I started thinking about her way less, like just a few times a day and only for a few seconds at that.

And when I did think about her, it wasn't in a "she's the greatest most perfect thing that's ever happened to me and I fucked it up, I don't deserve love or happiness ever again etc" kind of way anymore. My thoughts of her were more in a neutral manner, I realized how bad of a girlfriend she was, I saw her flaws and all of her mistakes / mistreatment of me clearly (which she never used to acknowledge, let alone take responsibility for), and not everything was my wrong doing as she always made out to be, making me out to always be the bad guy (which made me actually believe that I really was a bad guy, when in fact I'm not at all).

Relapsing especially binging, set me back into the old ways of thinking about her again practically worshiping her on the highest pedestal that I've kept her on for so long. My point is, if only a few weeks of abstaining from pmo can man-me-up and motivate me to make a life and clear up a lot of my porn induced depression and emotional issues, then what can a few months and years of abstaining do? Starting nofap woke me up from a 9 year coma.

So needless to say, eliminating pmo is the main thing that will allow me to address the other things in my life that need working on. Noticed the word I used "allow"? Pmo addiction doesn't allow you to progress in life, especially mentally and emotionally. So the longer one abstains from it, then eventually your brain will be forced to gradually and slowly rebalance itself, in turn helping you to make non-clouded judgments and beneficial choices and thoughts for youself. Of course knowing all of the possible withdrawals that come along with the no pmo journey helps to get through the withdrawals just a little bit easier.

Obviously all of us nofappers know, that no pmo is not the answer to all of our issues, but it is the key answer for us to find the answers to our other issues, if that makes sense. So just keep going, no matter how dark and hopeless some days / weeks / months can or might be. Best of luck.