Don't Let Dogma Ruin Your LIfe

"Jesus probably will not help you quit porn. Only your firm decision and a scientifically proven method will."

First off, I'm not religious. I don't believe in God. But I do respect that I have neighbors here that are Catholic, Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Hindu, Buddhist, Atheist, Satanist, Pagan, Scientologist, and I'm sure even more beliefs/views/faiths whatever you want to describe it as, even anti-dogmatic folk as yourself.

You have strong anti-dogmatic feelings obviously.

For some people Jesus will very much help them if they ask and pray for it. Who are you to talk against another person's beliefs?

I understand your post was very personal and relevant to YOU. I respect that very much. I wish you the best ChrisHaven.

Ever read this book?

Breaking Addiction: A 7-Step Handbook for Ending Any Addiction

It helped me overcome a few addictions.

 

Very interesting. I was also raised in a religious Catholic household. What I have come to realize through my time on NoFap is that it is near impossible for Jesus or God to intervene in a pornography addiction. Religion is not on the same playing field as technology. I think the beneficial aspect of religion is the idea that there is a greater being, who provides support.

Can Jesus or God stop someone from PMO'ing? Not a chance in hell. Technology will 10 times out of 10. The will must be mustered from within. The change must come from within. The strength must come from within. Religion assembles this fortitude for some people, including myself.

 

As a non-christian who grew up in a (non-practising) Anglican household, I actually (sort of) disagree.

I don't believe in dogma, rules or damnation, but I still believe in a sort of "higher power" or whatever you want to call it - and I do believe that, if we strip away the books and written dogma, then all religions have a similar set of core values - and that these values didn't just appear on the earth to control us, they formed out of man's wonder at the world and trying to make sense of it over millions of years.

Therefore, I believe that every human being on this planet is primarily spiritual, and that we all have the ability to have a connection to something "divine"... I think that by surrendering to this " divine energy" we can accomplish absolute miracles.

That doesn't mean it gets done for us, or that we won't break our surrender, but it does mean we can use this connection to find that extra strength when we really want it (rather than need it).

So no (in my opinion) we won't go to hell for making mistakes, just like the universe won't punish us for bad karma. Be it physical or emotional, we make our own hell, and it's up to us to free ourselves from it.

Of course, this is just my opinion, which is subject to change, and is not intended to insult anyone who thinks differently to me.

 

That's good advice.

Here's my take on your story. Your attitude is very common among teenagers. I can't fault you for growing at your own pace. I will say, however, that you're missing out on a few of life's best adventures, opportunities that you won't detect until you're ready for them.

It sounds like you associate mainly with men who are not any better off than you are. That's unfortunate. Before you know it, you will all be old men. Some of you will continue to enjoy a sense of purpose, pride in ongoing projects, sources of fulfillment, fun, intimacy, and even sex (yes, sex) in your old age. Some will experience only decline, self-comforting with memories of earlier days, wondering when it will be time to put your own lights out. Here's hoping you're in the former category.

Wishing you all the best, the courage to grow and explore in every way, the eyes to see more than you have already known in life.

 

Oh Lord, a 21-year old virgin. This is absolutely horrible. I don't know how you handled it, I myself would have probably committed suicide knowing that the gangsta buddies from my high school are already scoring and I'm not.

As to the topic of dogmas and the limitations of religion - I too never believed in heaven, hell, God's will/plan or any of that sort, but always instinctively knew I want to maintain "chastity" and to sacrifice my sexuality to one woman. Why? Because my strongest ambition it to preserve myself through a stable family. I perceive reality beyond my individual physical existence, I accept no bullshit of the "you live only once" or "carpe diem" sort. Timeless perception is my key to deep satisfaction of which shagging even the sexiest women on Earth would never provide.

So, let me counter-quote Fosdick's banalities with my own quote:

"It is a tendency of mediocre people to live with birth and death in perspective. Great individuals last in eternity."

Adrian Komiński

 

Living is Beautiful

Just gonna dump a tribute song here, a tribute to infinitude. Infinite beliefs, infinite ways of seeing things. Respect to all.

[video=youtube;Dbz15OsJlVU]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dbz15OsJlVU[/video]

 

When you find the right woman, she will be, if anything, pleased to hear a man is a virgin. If she immediately judges him, she doesn't deserve to have him. Real woman respect one's virginity.

There is a sort of stigma in today's world that virgins are "weird" and "awkward". If anything, they are extremely lucky to still be holding onto something so special. Everyone is different, and just because someone hasn't had sexual intercourse does not make them any less than guys who have sex all the time, even for a 21 year old. For myself personally, I don't enjoy having casual sex. It's like taking a part of that person with you, even though you may think there are "no strings attached".

 

Love every word you said and can't think of anything to add to make it better.

 

Beauty, I thought the sarcasm was obvious enough.

 

Couldn't tell, whoops!