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Don't know whether I have PIED or perfomance anxiety

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by DeadEnergy, Jul 16, 2020.

  1. DeadEnergy

    DeadEnergy Fapstronaut

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    Good day, everyone!

    Today I wanted to ask your opinion of what do I have. So I probably started NoFap lifestyle because I had problems in my sexual life. I had my first sex attempt with a hooker, when I was 17. I was a bit worried about having sex for the first time. So I could not erect. Then she gave me a blowjob and I had 100% erection, however, my penis became soft after 1 minute spent in vagina. I thought that it was just because it was my first time. After on year, situation repeated and I have started to be concerned about this. The month after this I have started dating with my current girlfirend. With her, I always had the erection, when it came to sexual actions. I had my erection during the handjob, blowjob and petting in the underwear. But when it was time for vaginal sex, my erection just dissapeared. By the way, she is a virgin and this makes the process difficult. Such situation happened several times and I am still struggling. So when I have discovered about PIED, I thought that I have it because I had watched porn for 5 years. From year to year, porn became more into pantyhose(my fetish) categories. However, the fact that I erection in other situations, makes me consider that I have just the perfomance anxiety. Because I can have my erection, while having a videocall with my girlfriend, and sometimes even during the voicecalls.

    I will be very happy to read your thoughts about my problem.

    Have a nice day and good luck!
     
  2. It seems to me it is performance anxiety, maybe it started with PIED like mine did, but I am the same when it comes to sexual acts, I have no confidence in the guy standing to attention and it distracts me from the moment. I know it would work if I didn't worry because it has done many times, but when you get thinking you're distracted and thats how it is. You've only had the issue when going to penetrative sex, you know it works fine before as it always does so you're confident in that ability, but as soon as penetrative sex comes along you think on the other times when it hasn't so your paranoia and anxiety kick in. Its all about being in the moment and calming your brain, I sadly can't offer any insights as I am still struggling to calm my anxious thoughts, but I hope this helps!
     
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  3. DeadEnergy

    DeadEnergy Fapstronaut

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    Thanks, man. I appreciate your answer!
     
  4. UnitedWeStand

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    In my opinion this is a mix between both. I cant say which one is more because i dont have many informations. The same thing was happening to me and i think pied cause the number one reason for it. Of course i had performance anxiety but i cant say that this was the problem about my erections. I managed to cure pied and performance anxiety (long process) but now i can have sex and erections during all sexual acts. If you need more informations follow me and send me your questions!
     
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  5. DeadEnergy

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    Thank you. Glad that you cured your problems!
     

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