Does having the "connetction" with a real woman count as a relapse?

Sup gurus!

I am in a situation when I can have it, BUT... I am not sure if my D would work... Even if I am able to do that, I don't think I can perform well. The last two contacts were ain't good, I couldn't fully operate but with "the oral assistance", however I reached O.

The thing is, it works well with P, especially with some of the genres. Sometimes I have morning wood, which is a good sign. However, I neither feel anything looking at real girls for most of the time, nor for pictures/images/ad/lingerie posters, etc. No effect...

Anyway, should I go for it when I have a chance? Just to build some self-confidence
OR
Should I live without "jerking with the woman's body", at least for 90 days?

 

Thank you for your reply! Well, it seems that I didn't explain myself correctly. I mean at that stage where I am rn, I don't feel much from being together with women, I do seek for emotional connection first. The option I've got is with the girl I do have certain feelings for, but more like friends, so does she. I don't plan use her as the tool, but I don't feel a strong desire, more like an impulse, which is certainly is not good enough to keep my D solid for long without other unorthodox actions...

Actually, the root of the problem is that after I broke up with a girl 5 years ago, I dedicated myself to P instead going out with other girls. As it clearly seems to me now, you can substitute a real woman with a hand and P.

"I bet if you abstain from P for a decent amount of time, you'll find yourself getting excited again over non-porn pictures/ad/lingerie/etc. The brain does re-sensitize." That was the best part, thnx for giving me motivation!

I hope u r having a great day!

 

I've actually seen a video on YouTube with the guy who was recommending to do that, like trying until it works well for you. If u failed, tell her that u was feeling nervous or tell her the truth. Perfectly, I would prefer to do that with a girl I have feeling for, but I do understand that this issue might changed her mind on me.

Regarding the connection with the real partners, I do agree and have my own opinion to support that. Before I had a gf, I was quite active with girls, had a lot of memories with them, even remembered the sensations that could arouse me easily. After the last brake up, I didn't have a girl for 5 yeas, so I replaced all the moments with porn images.

Anyway, thnx for your reply! Wish u a great day!

 

Well, that's a great statement: "Because the way things are now, if you did have sex with her and your D doesn't work, you won't know if it's because of porn or if it's because you're just not that into her."

It seems that it is better for me to keep a distance for a while, unless until I won't be sure for my feelings, as well as would she.

As for the digital and physical "objects" that should distract, but don't because of the weakened impulses. I do believe that I don't have to worry about that for a now, until "the drive" return.

Thnx for the wisdom! Have a great day!