Today I came across this article Working With Jerks Could Be Screwing Up Your Relationships, and I could not help but thinking about my situation. I am a bit older at 54, and all my life till a few years ago I hated my jobs, all of them. I changed careers a few times, went back to school, at one point I was by all accounts successful with a prestigious title and lots of money but I was unhappy and depressed. And my relationships were not that great either. I am not making excuses, I am just noticing. And Porn and PMO were my refuge. In a way I had a relationship with Porn, and a very shallow yet satisfying one: on demand, on my terms, and made me feel good, demanding nothing in return. Of course knowing what I know now, Porn is the enemy, with its addictions and side effects. Knowing what I know now, I can see how from an easy and quick escape from reality, it becomes an addiction. So, is a good job the secret to happiness and escape from porn? Of course no. But it helps! So, as we are all recovering from Porn, let's also concentrate on building for ourselves a happy life that fits our dreams and personality, which includes a job/careeer that we like, better if it's a job/career that we love.
A job to me is just a job. Pays the bills puts food on the table. Have my health insurance. No more no less. As long it does not stress me out I am fine. Don't hate it nor do I like it. I have other interests and money generating ideas and pursuits out there. I may have a corporate job but I have separated myself from the corporate world long long time ago. That is the most important. I treat a job as some slut. As long the job satisfy my needs I keep it around. If not it is thrown to the curb.
@larrylarrylarry, A bit off tangent here. I am speaking on my life so this may not register with you or anyone. Or maybe it does. Now looking back I don't find porn as an enemy. It was definitely a real disruption and certainly a showstopper for a good while. Resorting to porn was for me to protect myself from getting hurt. A self preserving mechanism. No attachments was my mantra for a very long time. Porn allowed me to be disinterested in real companionship so I can go ahead to free myself from the corporate world and build my money generating lifestyle which one day will take full center stage. I realized at the time women and love can be an obstacle. As Francis Bacon stated, "Wife and kids are hostages to fortune." With that in mind resorting to porn instead of chasing real women was the "best" choice at the time. Didn't realize this PMO comes with its own hidden costs.
