Do we absorb energy from the women we have sex with?

I think yes to them all. So be very picky who you have sex with for your own and future partner sake.

 

There is the Christian idea of soul ties. I'm not a Christian and I'm not sure about it. What I'm convinced by it is we are influenced by the people we spend time with and that isn't just related to the person we have sex with. Your friends and work colleagues influence you too. As the saying goes, 'Bad company corrupts good character'.

 

I completely agree. Every time you have sex with someone, it is a physical, emotion, mental, and spiritual bond that was meant to create a family. There are so many levels of connection there, even at the hormonal, pheromone, and post orgasm bonding, that the person having a lasting impact on you is inevitable. Your body and mind remember an orgasm in a way that is much more permanent than almost any other experience. That's why so much attention has been given to dopamine receptors and pathways that are created with porn. Can you get over it? Sure, but just like getting over porn, it isn't easy and there may be lasting damage.

 

Because ever time you have sex with someone, you glue your soul with that someone, which people refer as bonding, even if it was just for once. So you be able to give less to your future partner and this increase your chances of a divorce.

 

I haven’t looked into the soul ties thing so I can’t attest to how Christian it really is. I can tell you the phrase doesn’t show up anywhere in the Old or New Testaments, but then, neither does the word “trinity.” Sexual ethics are very important in Christianity, however. In the Old Testament, polygamy is permitted but who people were allowed to marry (and have sex with) was very restricted. The Jewish people were not allowed to have casual sex with non-Jews. There were laws for “war brides,” or women captured during combat, including extensive cooling off period before the Jewish soldier was allowed to “marry” and begin relations with her, and extensive legal protections given to her, whether the man chose to keep or release her. So it wasn’t casual, even with an enemy where most cultures took it as a matter of course that rape was the right of the conquering party. Sexual contact between Jews, I believe, was only legal in a marriage, though the Jews were familiar with the concept of prostitution. In Jewish tradition, a sexual relationship between man and wife was symbolic of God’s relationship to His people, so promiscuity was synonymous with idolatry. Some of the most graphic passages in Ezekiel make a direct correlation.

In the New Testament, Christians and especially non-Jewish Christians were famously absolved from many of the most onerous aspects of Jewish law, but were still admonished not to join sexually with prostitutes. The reasoning being, our bodies are purified temples to Christ, which should not be joined and mingled with a promiscuous body. And while polygamy is not outright prohibited, it is explicitly clear that men in leadership positions of the church are to be monogamous. I do think it is important to note, while the Bible does assume certain gendered dynamics, the argumentation applies both ways. It is as detrimental for a Christian woman to join with a promiscuous man as it is for a man to join with a promiscuous woman.

Some of the questions you are asking hint at chakras, or some variety of spiritual energy, which isn’t listed in Christian sources and is very Eastern, un-scientific in nature but has nonetheless picked up credibility in the West because it simply seems to be observably true. In a more scientific sense, we don’t necessarily become more like our sex partners but we absolutely do bond with them, on a hormonal level. Women get significant doses of oxytocin through skin to skin and eye to eye contact, which bonds them to their partner in the same way they bond to their children at birth. Men use a different hormone, vasopressin, which works differently but arrives at a similar result. Both men and women, scientifically speaking, are prone to “catch feelings” with their partner(s) whether they intend to or not. The explanation we are given is that sex has this weird, random side effect of making babies, and a baby has an exponentially increased chance of surviving to his/her own sexual maturity if his/her parents are working together, and are invested in one another as well as the child. Thus, non-scientific observations like “blood is thicker than water,” and “a mother’s love,” have rational explanations with scientific mechanisms at root.

Whether you want to go Eastern or Western, spiritual or scientific, there are always good reasons to be cautious about who you sleep with. The only line of reasoning that says you don’t is from sources claiming you can indulge your impulses without consequence, because we have eliminated consequences through technology. They claim the only hang up is old, irrelevant cultural programming, invented by killjoys, or in the best case, well-meaning conservatives who can’t recognize the problems they are guarding against have been solved by alternative means. I personally believe that is hubris. We might have solved unwanted pregnancy, but pregnancy and pleasure are not the only consequences of sex. Pretending otherwise is foolish.

And besides, I think “free” love decreases the value of sexual love. It’s a good thing to have something special reserved for the special person you have, or one day hope to have, in your life. If you are free to indulge you are also prone to be used. If you hold yourself apart, both you and the person you love are more likely to value the experience more.

 

Eastern Christians believe in energy. Just took a search about "Essence-Energies" and "Divine Energies", as well S. Gregory Palamas in Orthodox tradition