Do I need to reset the counter, if I masturbated without orgasm

Hey M,
It depends on your objectives and goals. Some people consider "edging" a relapse, others don't. I personally work to avoid edging, but would actually see it as something positive if in the middle of a fapping session, you are able to snap common sense and stop yourself. Sounds like a small victory to me.

 

My opinion:

If you did this intentionally (i.e. planning to edge from the beginning), then its a relapse as you're going through the slippery slope
If you did this unintentionally (out of habits or whatever), and then knocked some sense into your head then stopped immediately, then it's not a relapse

 

Well, that entirely depends on what your personal goal is, and how strongly you want to stick to that goal.

I've seen people who simply wanted to cut porn out of their lives, some who just stopped porn and masturbation (but still could have sex, if they were married), and still others who go "Hard Mode": no porn, masturbation, or orgasm (some are even strict enough to include wet dreams).

If your goal is simply not to orgasm, then you're doing fine, but if you're trying not to PMO, well... you've already P'd and M'd.

Personally, I would reset your counter. But this time, go through the counter's options to try and set a goal and some guidelines for yourself. (For example: on my counter it shows that I'll hold myself responsible and reset if I intentionally look at porn, or masturbate at all.)

Good luck, we're all with you!

 

For me, it is critical to stop watching porn as this is where the problem lies. If I was you I would define the challenge as very clearly not to watch porn under any circumstances. It is much harder to control the M and O once P is around.

 

Depends on what your objectives are. Mine are to quit porn, and in order to completely reset myself I have sworn off all sexual activity not involving another person. For me, by my objectives, edging or looking at porn would constitute a reset. Re-define your objectives and go from there. Well done for stopping though - like a druggie with a pipe in their hands, it is hardest to turn around when you are already in the crack house. Don't beat yourself up though,that really is pointless ;-) keep at it.

 

Just for future reference, you said that you "gave in". It sounds like you broke your own goal so yes, if you feel like you let yourself down or you broke a promise to yourself, it should be reset. No problem though. Lesson learned each time!

 

The best way, in the end, is to just keep your clothes on
Sounds like a farmer's wisdom, but it's the simple truth.

Good luck, man!