Distancing myself from others

I'm terrible at making close friends. This means that I spend my weekends alone at home and afternoons alone as well. Nobody invites me to do stuff with them.
I don't know what causes me to not be very good at just having a conversation and relax and have a good time. I'm just not very talkative really. I'm also being way too serious most the time.
Any advice from you guys?

 

seems like you care too much what your friends think about you,
you say you have friends, so invite some of your friends to do stuff with you instead of waiting for them to invite you
doing more stuff (party, gym, sports, movies, games, online games, shopping, roller-coaster parks, etc... allot you can do) with them will loosen you up so your not that serious and it will get you closer to each other as your making memories with them

 

There may not be that many around, Naikolai, but why not look out for others that are serious, quiet and most probably isolated and lonely. Like you, they are surely very interesting when you become acquainted with them. You might first connect over something geeky or nerdy, but from there you might find you can open up other topics.

 

I've tried to do this before, but the people just turned out to be weird and all about that interest really. Like they were two-dimensional.
My best friend invited me to a concert the 30th of May though. I turn 18 the next day, so I guess I'll be hanging with him for 2 straight days.

 

It's really important to not judge others so much. This is a defence mechanism that keeps you from having friends or getting too close to people. I know because I do it! I will tell myself that my friends are so self centred or they don't talk about intelligent topics or....the list goes on. When I stopped judging them and just accepted them as people trying to make it in the world like me things got soooo much easier. I no longer needed them to be like me, I just had fun. I was also able to open up and share my own stories with them because I also stopped judging myself. I am also an introvert who doesn't like being around people a whole lot but the story I tell myself is that only losers spend time alone. The truth is I love being alone! Not all the time but it is a big part of who I am and now I accept it about myself. Do you ever notice how on tv everyone is surrounded by loads of people and they are always having a great fucking time? It makes you feel like a loser if life is not like that. The truth is most people feel alone and like they don't have friends!

I am picky about my friends for sure but I am ok with that. People who have a ton of friends don't care who they hang with they just have those types of personalities. I'd rather hang out with people who are funny and not psycho. I am learning of course not to judge so much like I mentioned above!

 

it's all down to the effects of porn remember. it's social anxiety. u feel some kind of panic when closer to people. I also feel the same but have decided to work on it because when I was quiet young and didn't know porn, I was very good at making friends having a good time. I'll get back to those days. it was really fun.