Hello, first post here, I'm glad I found this community that I'm sure will help me alot. I been fighting this disease since I was 15 yro. Im been dating my recent gf for 2 years now. Shes been the perfect girl in every single aspect except during sex. I always love tall , voluptuous blondes. I never dated anyone like that until I met her. Shes every sex symbol I could fantasize. However, sex is the last thing in her mind. I want her to be sensual, try new things , dress up game, sex games, but shes just not interested. We would have conversations about this. Ill tell her what I want to see from her. She would try something small then the next week will be back to what it was before. We could go for weeks without having sex if I wouldn't initiate or try to make a move on her. Im been fighting this challenge but its hard when I cant enjoy sex with my gf to the fullest.
Ironically, your girlfriend's apathy about sex with you is an advantage in overcoming your addiction to masturbation and pornography. If you are having a lot of sex during the 90 day NoFap challenge, your reboot will be much slower. Clearly you have learnt through porn to see women as sex objects. This will change as you reboot and you will likely find that your girlfriend will be more responsive when that is no longer the case. You may also find that your current fetishes and kinks will go. I think your journey will be most interesting!
Hello, first post here, I'm glad I found this community that I'm sure will help me alot. I been fighting this disease since I was 15 yro. Im been dating my recent gf for 2 years now. Shes been the perfect girl in every single aspect except during sex. I always love tall , voluptuous blondes. I never dated anyone like that until I met her. Shes every sex symbol I could fantasize. However, sex is the last thing in her mind. I want her to be sensual, try new things , dress up game, sex games, but shes just not interested. We would have conversations about this. Ill tell her what I want to see from her. She would try something small then the next week will be back to what it was before. We could go for weeks without having sex if I wouldn't initiate or try to make a move on her. Im been fighting this challenge but its hard when I cant enjoy sex with my gf to the fullest. Sorry my original thread got delete it. Thanks for your response. I see thaf you mention that im looking at my gf as a sex object. I agree partially with that statement but having a some fun in bed wouldn't hurt anyone right? Or is that just my addiction talking?
I'd imagine that it's the addiction. I was a bit like this with my girlfriend. As I progressed with nofap I found more and more that all I wanted and needed was her, with no other distractions. You'll probably find that the longer you go without PMO, the more you'll enjoy and desire simple intimacy with her, and the more she'll be interested and comfortable in return.
