Did your life change after moving out from parents?

Hi,

I'm constantly working on myself this year. I no longer feel as completely possessed with PMO, I gained my first girls related experiences and I develop my hobbies, I do sports etc. I move forward and wonder if that's the next, neccesary, big step in my life.

I'm 27 yo. Living in middle/east Europe. My house in which I live with my parents is in big city. Most of my colleagues in work, are renting flats since they were born in smaller, different cities. I've always lived there, in capital so I was not forced to move out.

Moving out of parents is not economicly logic in my case. Neither me or them are rich so it's not like "fuck it, I want to do it, so I do it" in my case. Renting flats is very expensive here, both in country and especially in capital. If I were to rent I would probably have to spend ~50-60% of my whole income just for a living or even more. That would drift away my dream, to BUY a flat, in time. Renting a room is another cheaper option, though.

What's your experience with moving out? Did your life and the way you treat it(life), change? I know that there's big part of people that had to do it anyway but would you consider that even if you didn't have to, like in my case?

 

Yes, I'm a man.

Could you please refer to arguments for and against which I've included in my first post? Or is it that important thing, in your opinion, that they don't matter in the end and I should do it no matter what cost I'll have to take?

I'm sorry but you didn't say what exactly changed when you moved out. Could you please describe more about it?

I received two feedbacks(thank you @Cirilla ) with kind of two different views. I would like to hear more from your perspective, SDJR, if it's possible.

 

damn that's rough. I feel sorry when I read it... Relationship between my parents are really really good, they're even too close to each other, haha. I believe they wouldn't survive if they didn't have each other. I get that part when you say that they try to made you feel you wouldn't survive without them. I feel a bit similar. Even though I'm grown up, big time, they try to still do best for me and fact that I love them, they're most important in my life, I don't want to hurt them because I know that they will miss me. At the same time I'm too dependant on them.

Yeah! That's what I imagine how I would feel even in just a room with random people in apartment... Bulding your own reality, physically & mentally is satisfying.

I'm sorry that you had to go through this... I can't relate though... My family was mostly calm and happy. We, my family, are very calm people "defaulty". We hardly ever argue or disagree with negative intentions. Maybe it's because we avoid true problems? I wonder...

I kinda laughed not gonna lie. I'll never have enough cash to buy house. You know what they say, it's better to cry in house than under the bridge. Anyway that part of house being a bad reminder is really touchy, sad. It must've been really bad.

You know, we're happy family. Parents have friendly relationship, I love them. There's no toxicity in my household. Although I feel like being there limits me. Being more or less dependant on them. There's always free soul to talk to. I don't need to search for company or even devour it. That's the key. I no longer develop or not in the proper pace.

If it weren't economic decision I would probably already done that. But I grew in a poor family. It's very important for me to not waste my money and renting a flat is very expensive. Just wondering if benefits overcome the cost... Thank you @SDJR for longer repost. I'm really sorry for what you've gone in your past.

 

Yes, I feel like I want to do it and I know that most likely I will experience that satisfaction and if it were only about that I would do it. Sadly not sure if the benefits justify costs which are extremely high. They won't be lower though so it's a vicious circle I guess...

Nah it's healthy opinion. I agree with you, thank you.

I agree too but life is life and sometimes it's worth to sacrifice something in order to build new happiness, like in the book of mouses searching for a cheese I've read one day.

Plus it's not like I'm dying, I can visit them from time to time!