So I have been trying to do NoFap for a long time without luck. Except for this time. I went without porn or masterbation for 23 days before failing. I didn’t look at porn, but my hand gave in. I want to know if this counts as a fail, what this means, if tomorrow is gonna be a “hangover day”, and if I should be disappointed in myself. The only reason I got to say 23 is cuz I got into my first relationship on day 10, and it’s just been distracting me. I can’t tell if I should feel ashamed of myself, if I failed her, or what. I don’t know what to feel
I’ve been where you are at my friend! Next time don’t count the days because that’ll make you feel bad if you’re on a small streak and instead make the days count and keep moving forward! Do exercise to if you wanna boost testosterone and cold showers to help you! I believe in you
Of course you haven’t failed this is the negative side about Nofap: hating on yourself for having a mo! It’s only going to come out in your sleep if you don’t as it’s a natural mechanism. Getting in a relationship is a massive win. Stay off porn or other harmful sex, but certainly don’t beat yourself up. That just causes shame and self loathing which causes the addiction in the first place
You have to figure out what your boundaries are in your fight against this addiction and decide how to handle mistakes you make along the way. Asking for advice is fine, but you are the one who ultimately decides where you're at in this fight. Good luck!
