Destructive Behavior

Can you give more detail? Is there a specific moment or event where you get the urge to go back to destructive behaviours? Also what are the destructive behaviours?

 

Is it possible that on a subconscious level, you don't believe you deserve a good life?

This could also just be the dopamine-addicted brain looking for a reason to act out. Sometimes the addicted brain is like, "wow, life is going great! We're making good decisions! We're experiencing success! This is cause for celebration, so let's have a good PMO binge!" Those are the times when it's important to reward your success with healthy pleasures, not maladaptive ones like PMO.

 

You need to remove all triggers. And as for destructive behaviour depends on what streak you’re on . Usually comes about in the flatlining phase of nofap around 3-6 months of nofap. You need to be engaged in athletic or some mentally stimulating activity to offset the destructive behaviour during this special period. Flatlining means behaviour can but not necessarily become unpredictable but it’s when the brain is rewiring and looking for that fix like a drug. The brain is looking for new adventure after flatlining and returning to normality as if you never did pmo. I would remove all triggers and put safety filters in place and be productive.

 

Addiction can rationalize any opportunity to express itself.

If life is going fantastic, then my addict wants to celebrate by acting out.
If life is going horrible, then my addict wants to medicate by acting out.
If life feels dull and middle-of-the-road, then my addict wants to act out, because then at least I'll feel something.

The result is that literally every circumstance becomes reason to engage in addictive behavior. For me, the only antidote is to declare from the get-go that I will not use PMO--no matter what, come hell or high water, no excuses.

 

The craving for bliss will overwhelm most people’s defenses at some point. So, what to do? Well, what if we are, through pmo, mistaking euphoria for bliss? Try contemplating these two definitions:

Euphoria: a state of intense excitement that is short-lived. It is a feeling of elation that is triggered by external factors such as drugs, music and other stimuli. It can be addictive, leading to reckless behavior.

Bliss: a state of joy and contentment. A feeling of complete satisfaction and fulfillment that comes from within. It is a long-lasting state that is not dependent on external factors.

 

Excellent!

 

I'll be listening out for any tips on this as well. Have battled to get past 3 or so weeks, I have totally let my guard down at that point. I have some things that are working for me at the moment, which I will keep posting on around the forum, especially if they can help get me past that point

 

I guess we all have. And so the “relapsing “ goes on and on, like a broken record!