Day four, off to a strong start but very overwhelmed

Hello
I am a 20 year old male and I suffer from erectile dysfunction. I have PMOd on a regular basis, say 3 or 4 times a week sometimes more, since age 14. Not much previous sexual experience. But recently I had the opportunity to have sex with a woman. I just couldn’t get it up! I felt so frustrated and embarrassed that I had stopped talking to her altogether out of shame. I am also unable to masterbate without porn. I have no morning wood ever, no libido, and the occasional spontaneous erections I do get are nothing more than a tingle. Nothing noteworthy. My balls feel dead and numb. I tried a couple stretches of nofap before this but made it to a week at best. I mainly jerk because I am bored or lonely or just want to make myself feel something. I am also diagnosed with depression and social anxiety if that matters. This time I am seriously committed. I’m really overwhelmed after reading things about young guys like me that started at a young age taking longer, even upwards of a year to recover. I’m going off to college in the fall. I just want to be able to have a normal sex life and not waste my “peak” years feeling so lifeless and hollow inside. I’m glad I’m not alone, can anybody offer a word of advice to maybe speed up my recovery. I’m willing to bite the bullet and to anything it takes.