Hello guys, hope you are doing well. It was unfortunate, but I gave in to the temptation today. I remember posting a few months ago, stating that weekends are the hardest, especially Saturday. I started NoFap about 10 weeks ago without any plan. It was entirely spontaneous. I started masturbating when I was 16 or 17, which is late as compared to some. Everyday, I would login to the forum and look through some posts, which is motivating to me. I guess I would continue to do so. Nonetheless, I am taking this as a learning experience and see how I can improve on my next challenge. In the past, I suffer from social anxiety e.g. maintaining eye contact when speaking to people. I have improved in this aspect though, as I reflect on the presentations I have completed during the past 2 weeks. I was able to have clear thoughts and speak clearly, and pace myself. Honestly speaking, I am not devasted over the relapse. In fact, I would say I somewhat gave in to the tempation, which is bad on my part. I am currently 23, single and never dated before, and don't really have the option of find real women due to the situation I am in (I won't explain further on this). But all of these sound like excuses. I probably will monitor myself for a while and plan properly, before I start another challenge again. As of now, I don't think it is a problem to exceed the 70 days of no PMO. Cheers.
Great job on 70 days, don't think of the relapse as "all progress is lost", if you get right back on the horse and keep going I think youll be just fine. You are definitely better off right now than when you first started even though both are "day 0". Good work
It's okay brother. Keep on going. I think my next goal is to hit 90 days and during the process, I am not going to count days. Cheers.
Appreciate the heads up brother. Will be setting a goal of 90 days this time and I am not going to count days. Like what you said, I don't think that all progress is lost. I have gained a lot throughout these 71 days. Furthermore, my social anxiety is almost non-existent now. I have gained willpower too. Will start the milestone once I am ready. Cheers.
You just gotta stay strong. Once you did that after this long while, your brain will want it again , badly!! Hold tight and get back on track.
Cali, 71 days is amazing. be proud of that, I just relasped after 16 days (my farthest in 2 years). For me, I think in order to really begin a streak you have to have the right mindset. After the 16 days I relasped because I was really stressed out. I told myself, I wish I didn't relaspe, but I was proud of how far I went. you dont want to get to hard on yourself, but at the same time you need to put yourself right back in the mindset. Come back on this forum, type what made you relaspe, remebered the motivation behind why you are doing this, and get back on the streak. I am working on day two rn, it sucks that I relasped, but I know what it feels like to be 16 days free. Everyday remeber why you are fighting, and then just keep grinding away
There are quite a few factors in my mind, but I relapsed because I was frustrated over some personal issues. Loneliness was also a big factor. What to look out for: Firstly, everybody is different so I would give one general suggestion that I feel is applicable to most situations. I would suggest not to stay in your room with your laptop or computer for too long. The moment your mind starts to think about pornography, you should immediately think of something else. What I think of is "dumbbell". I would repeatedly think of this word in my mind and go for a walk immediately. I think it is effective to a certain extent. So people should find out what works best for them when trying not to relapse. Hopefully this helps. Cheers. Stay strong.
You are right brother. I am feeling quite strong urges today after my relapse. Not giving in though. Haha, it's like a tug of war now. Cheers.
