Day 7 and my gf just broke up with me. About to relapse.

Your point is the same as mine. It can be beaten, by actively fighting it but my original point is this: before you actively fight it, before you even realize you have an addiction the subconscious mind has chosen the porn over the SO or any other person for that matter. The addicted brain wants pixels, not a woman.

 

Right but it does not hurt the partner any less if it's put that way and it's often said defensively. I understand objectively what addiction is but when it comes to how th addiction and lies make me feel it makes no difference. You did chose the addiction over her. Subconsciously, unconsciously or on purpose you still did.

 

You're absolutely right and that's why my relationship ended and it's why countless other relationships ended or are ending. I hope yours can survive the ravages of porn addiction.