Day 600+ and Rejection is Leaving Me Clueless

Nice man I have the same problem as you, I can't read women very well when I am interested in them. I hope you well and good luck.

 

Hey dude, totally get you. Was the same except I didn't even have the courage to ask girls out at the time. It took me a heartache to finally understand I needed to fight the fear of rejection and act with confidence and vulnerability. All I can recommend you do is not going through scripts and PUA-stuff, just don't try to come up with smart lines or think too much about what you are going to say. Here's an image that helped me : imagine you're walking on the edge of a cliff. Below is a pool of water. It's quite high and you're feeling even more nervous as you approach the edge and look down below. You challenged yourself to dive in the water below. Now, the more you'll think about how to jump or worse, if you should jump at all, chances are you won't jump. There's only one way to do it : it is to jump before your mind has a chance to ask itself those questions. You know you've succeeded when you hear yourself saying the words you want to say for ex : asking a girl out or expressing genuine interest , not within your mind coming from your inner voice but in your ears, coming from your actual voice, get it ? As if someone else spoke these words. You feel suspended in mid-air at this point. The feeling to be looking after I think is having just jumped and asking yourself : wait, did I just jumped ? You get the idea.

Great resources I recommend is Models by Mark Manson in case you haven't read it yet. This book kicked my ass big time and I re-read it at least once every year to remember its most valuable lesson : be vulnerable, be honest, act honest, communicate honest. Wishing you all the best my friend, and remember, you're not alone, I was and still feel like you do now. Best

 

Maybe don't approach them in the church, wait until service is finished and approach her in the parking lot..

 

You're only 19 mate!
Do your studies/work, have good habits, and just develop yourself as you aren't even fully an adult yet (no offence).
Don't worry about getting a gf or getting laid.

 

Good attitude. The good news is that you are way ahead of certain pack members who are far older than you. Nobody knew about giving up on PMO a few years ago.
You're doing great.

 

Fair enough..
So what's your strategy now..
Even though you are still very young...how are u going to find this ideal woman you are searching for ?

 

Definitely don't sit and do nothing..... that is.... if you are truly determined and on a mission. But instead of trying to put yourself out there, why not do the reverse, and make yourself more attractive. And not just in the looks department, women crave an accomplished man. A man who is a financial provider, a care taker. If they see you driving a nice car, they will automatically assume you are financial secure and accomplished.

Don't chase women, attract them, then decide who's a keeper !

Most males do the opposite, they chase and chase and chase....

 

Thanks for the book recommendation. Will check it out.

 

Check out Ralph Smart in youtube, he once used the quote "analysis is paralysis" and i feel that in social dynamics this may be true a lot... in general people just want good easy going vibes i feel like... i have been a social wreck for most of my life.. but now just seeing it as something "easy going", "making myself comfortable" things seem to be going better than before. Respect for the many days btw, keep it going

 

I've had the same issue for many years... it can be so hard. But now i feel like the solution has a lot to do with finding more inner peace, relaxing the mind, finding myself and aligning to my core beliefs. I feel like it's pretty easy in this world to get very confused. I value scientific and rational thinking, but at the same time.. i don't see life as theoretical anymore.. and really aim for more tranquility.. it's all a journey

 

what i am going to say is not to hurt your feeling

it is the harsh truth
anyone who disagrees whit me, that is fine and entirely up to you

but in the world we live in today

rejection is mostly because of your looks.

not your confidence, or your status

but your looks

plenty of evidence to find for this

to keep it simple = improved looks = improved dating life

 

And impove size of wallet $$