Day 43 Reboot: Was it PIED or just Performance Anxiety ?

So first off to say, I just want to owe a big thanks to NOFAP and all the members that gave me direction along the way to overcome this challenge !

So as you read my title, it says “Was it PIED or just Performance Anxiety”. Before 43 days I had sex with my gf prior to knowing about NoFap but it took a while for me to get hard and I couldn’t stay erect to switch positions, didn’t even O that night. Again and again I tried weeks later, it got worse, couldn’t get erect even if she gave me a bj.

I was like what ? How is this happening, I thought it was just stress or nerves so next time I just relaxed and poof nothing still worked. Most embarrassing moment of my life, I was like I’m 18 how could this be happening to me ! But I had a good gf so she didn’t care if we had sex or not (Thank God).

So I decided to take matters and my own hands, at first i thought why not just buy sex enhanced pills but keep in mind I'm an 18 year old (I should not have to buy them at this age) but instead I still did, I bought “Horny Goat Weed” 3 times from a gas station, and bought “Agless male tonight” at another gas station, and guess what THEY DID ABSOLUTELY NOTHING BUT MAKE MY HEART FAST.

I thought I had ED problems at first, but I would try to reject it because I’m so young like the thoughts were horrible, I even told my mom to make a doctors appointment but I told her make it about my acne because I was afraid to tell her about my problem. Next thing you know, this Corona virus hits and all the appointment are booked 3 months from that time I asked. I was in shock and was like I have to be cured so I can have sex with my gf I told myself in my mind.

I was devastated and fell into not depression but I had a lot of sad moments, I didn’t let that get me tho. I did some research and trust me I did a lot and found out about NOFAP and learned everything I could and so I concluded that I had came into the terms of PIED (Porn Induced Sexual Dysfunction) I had matched every term in the criteria. Learned more research and found out about something called a “Reboot” at first I was like this can’t be because of porn, I thought to myself, my friends watch Porn more then me and had constant sex without trouble so why is it happening only to me ?

Keep in mind I only had sex with one other girl before my current girlfriend and I had PMO’d way before I had sex for the first time(virgin gang lol). I also took small breaks from PMO because I wasn’t that much of an addict but only did it for 2 and a half years.

I had gave it a try and did a hardmode reboot and trust me those days were hard and had a lot of ups and downs, it’s not easy. But since I wasn’t really addicted to porn or M like that, I never really had any urges, I didn’t have a chaser affect, had constant morning wood, like everything people described in a reboot, I never really had those “bad” symptoms. I questioned if I really did have PIED or was I just having performance anxiety, so when I was with my girl, I’d see if I had a boner, I wouldn’t try for sex because in the back of mind I knew it wouldn’t work if I tried to put it in.

Most times, I wouldn’t have a boner and then some I would, some lasted longer, some were stronger, it varied a lot for me. I still believed I had PIED, 30 days into the reboot I feel alive again, more boners, more sexual thoughts and everything. I was like this is actually working, day 36 come I took a shower with my girl and she gave me head, I actually had a long lasting boner the whole time, I did not O. So I thought I had DE too.

Day 41 comes, she gave me head again and I actually cumm’d ! I was like woah what ? and I did it in like 5 minutes, the same night I had sex too but unfortunately I got soft when trying to switch positions and did not O that night (still thought I had delayed ejaculation). But being able to perform was such a big achievement to me, I just relaxed and let my anxiety be non existent and I got erect and had good sex with her.

Even though I had sex I still wasn’t done yet, I wanted to be able to fully have sex and stay erect and ejaculate.

So that brings me to my next point, last night I had amazing sex twice ! Not once but twice within an hour with my girlfriend and guess what ? I had actually came both times in under 10 minutes. I was so happy I couldn’t believe I actually did it ! I don’t know what it was but I just relaxed and if my anxiety was there I didn’t even worry and just enjoyed be intimate with my girlfriend and kiss and cuddle with her. Some how I got in the mood, she gave me or*l, got erect and had sex with her both times and came.

Only 43 days and I was able to achieve this ! Now it hits me thinking, I had a conversation with a guy on here and he told me he thought I didn’t even have PIED, of course I didn’t believe him but he thought I was just nervous.

But last night I felt no anxiety or nervousness at all, before I discovered NoFap my body would shake right before intercourse making me go soft. But these times I didn’t feel none of that at all nor did my heart beat fast. That brings me with my title, Was I just nervous and had a lot of anxiety this whole time ? Or did I have PIED and feel somewhat cured already ? Who knows ? One thing I can say is that I will never get back into my PMO habits and will continue my reboot.

I’m telling you, NoFap actually works and this is coming from an 18 year old who shouldn’t have ANY problems getting it up no matter what ! If I can do it, you can to ! Thanks again everybody.

 

Yea bro you can do it, like even though I’ve had sex with my girlfriend my erections were not the best because when you switch from porn and turn those thoughts off, you gotta replace them with sex thoughts and that’s what I did, at first when we had sex I could penetrate but could not switch positions at all.

now that I have more sex, my minds telling me to get a stronger erection, so now my erections stay harder and last longer and I can finally switch from 5 different positions no problem. Just keep rebooting man, I know hard mode is considered but man do I love sex, I’m currently on day 45 normal mode now. Some people do hard mode, some don’t, everyone’s different.

I will say on day 30 is when exactly I got my harder erections and all that good stuff, but like you said you might not have it so test it out, that’s what I did, I relaxed and let her give me or*l and if I get a solid erection and can have sex then you know you don’t have it.

Good luck bro ! For real NoFap has changed me a lot in good ways, keep with your reboot and if you relapse don’t knock yourself down ! See you at 90 days brother

 

Thanks man ! Appreciate it a lot.

 

Man thanks for real ! I really appreciate this community and the members that help you get through rough times. But yea I totally agree with you because that’s exactly what happened before I discovered NoFap, couldn’t maintain an erection and got embarrassed and next thing you know I got anxiety and whoops the erection was never found after.

I can say after the days I did reboot, it totally increased my sexual urges and boosted my confidence so when I made an attempt to have sex with her and it was successful I had the best sex I’ve had with her and my anxiety just has been going down ever since.

One thing I will say is that I will continue my reboot because why not ? It’s honestly changed me and so have guys like you that gave me direction. I won’t PMO again like my old self, that honestly changed my perspective about what real sex is like.


One last Thank You to the NoFap community and Thanks again too brother for your advice, Good luck to you too !