Day 16 and life feels better but a bit boring

That's up to you @Ripley71

Nofap is fundamentally a challenge in terms of what you can do alone for yourself. Ironic phrasing aside, this means that not only do you have to control your own urges, motivate yourself and generally be the instigator of your own revival but you have to also force yourself to push on from there.

Nofap will bring you from a minus value back to zero but it's then up to you to push on from there and improve yourself. Nofap is simply the platform that lets you make true changes in your life for the better, removing the anchor around your feet so you can get your head above water.

There are a million things to do in the world, you're simply in the midst of being blinded by habitual porn usage that you aren't well practiced in what there is or how to find it.

Also on top of this see my post here about the post-2week lull

For something you can do right here and now at your computer try some of the extremely interesting articles here

http://nautil.us/
and here
http://highline.huffingtonpost.com/

 

Also a great podcast that is accessible and educational enough that it feels like real improvement of oneself is The Partially Examine Life about the major philosophical players throughout history.

It's very apt for nofappers in particular the title is taken from a Socrates quote of "The unexamined life is not worth living" which really does some up a lot of what's going on here.

 

I suppose it feels boring and dull because you're trying to eradicate a habit. Just like drug and alcohol addicts you need "that shot" - as you are so used to it and without it it's "boring".

This "boring" phase is the test or struggle that you have to go through.

Just like a drug or alcohol addict you may see "no point" in recovering because you are so used to it.

However when you do realise the importance of recovery and when you do give in to the habit then you will REGRET giving in... you will see many posts and topics on relapses on these forums including by myself.

I hope this explains the process of "no pain no gain"

 

I can relate I feel like a boring guy even when I'm talking to people. I can't seem to channel the old fun me.. Even if I'm talking to a girl, I'd be boring as fuck. Going out with friends I feel like I'm not contributing my energy to the laughs etc, but I have been feeling more solidarity.

In these situations I remind myself I don't need to laugh if I don't want to, I'm the boss. It's up to me, I'm not gonna join in for the sake of it I'm building my life here bro

I even got called a shit friend. But I don't care because fuck people who judge me that's just one man's opinion and they aren't that important to please. I contribute when I feel like it.

 

@Ripley71, I can also relate. We PMO'd in the first place because it gave us a dopamine rush like very few things can. PMOing is very unhealthy but in the moment while feeding the addiction it is really "exciting" and the opposite of boring (at least for me it was). Before my reboot, whenever I was bored I would just watch pornography so I could feel the rush. Now PMO is simply not an option.

There are few things that give such a big dopamine rush and are as easily accessible as PMO. Ever since I started my reboot I have been bored much more often. As time has gone on the boredom has become less significant, but it is still there. At the same time I am much happier with myself and that makes it all worth it.

 

I suppose feeling or being boring is a price you pay now so that you'll be better in the future.

Perhaps it's always been like this but nofap is not possible if we try to find a route that represents no adversity. Sacrifice is part and parcel of the process, unavoidable and our best bet is, instead of loathing it's appearance, embrace the difficulty and challenge.

 

I know, it is normal at first, we see boredom as a bad thing. It is actually THE BEST thing in our lives right now. Without boredom, we would never learn to enjoy the small things in life. Remember how we used to be when we were "entertained" by PMO? The small things like looking at nature, eating a piece of fruit, or doing a simple chore were things we avoided and overlooked simply because they were not stimulating enough.

For example, now that I am bored during the day, I look forward to eating time, gym time, hell even making a cup of tea is suddenly fun. I even cleaned an old pair of white converse shoes today morning, something I would have never had the desire or the patience to do when I was PMO'ing.

My thoughts to you are to embrace boredom as a friend now, because the way I am seeing it, this will eventually lead us to discovering the things we ACTUALLY like to do and are actually meant to do in this life.

Good luck brother!