dating during reboot

Hi trying2,

It is very difficult to give you an exact answer since we're all different. Ultimately the only person that can make this decision is yourself. However, with all this being said I would agree with your friend.
I personally pursue a life of celibacy (as much as I can) until I am properly rebooted. I'd recommend that to others as well for simplistic purposes. No way to bend the rules here. Being strict and living in celibacy usually means a deeper and more clean withdrawal (which ultimately shortens the amount of time you need to reboot).

#Hardmode

 

I agree with crush, once you have a physical distraction it will be tempting to have sex like as many times as you can but you should hold back if you are going for a proper reboot.

 

I second what Freedom Flight said.

I agree we are all different and certain strategies will work for some and not others. But what ever route you take, abstinence is is only part of the process of healing. Rewiring is the other essential part. Going on a date provides a great opportunity to rewire. Go on dates to practice seeing the woman, the person. Experience the pleasure of conversation, the touching of hands. All the human stuff we neglected. A date is also great because you can set up a plan for afterwards. You can get urges if it goes well or goes bad. So prepare yourself with some strategies for dealing with the urges after.. Make sure you have plans with buddies or draw or plan a bike ride.. what ever works for you. You will rewire your brain this way. This is where you create your new neural pathways. You have to put yourself under stress to grow, like a muscle. A date will provide that test, that stress, that opportunity to grow.

 

Yes, go out there and build connection with real women, it does not have to be sexual. Your intention for talking to a woman should not be sexual anyway.

But if it is sexual, I see how it could lead to M again. Let's say you make out with her and that's all you got. You might go home and M lmao.