Dating app experiences

In my opinion the idea is good because it probably takes out of the difficulty with finding a compatible date, but in my case i never found someone who I have something in common with. I never really got a response from someone who I have something in common with, so I ditched it. I'd rather spend my time skateboarding and slamming my head into the concrete at this point. Maybe in the future I'll try dating apps again.

 

No, I haven't used any dating apps yet. I'm not successful with women, but I think that dating apps is the second last solution before prostitutes, escorts etc. I will try first to improve myself with the help of specialists. If it fails, I will try apps...

 

I used tinder multiple times. I dated a girl for a month, we had sex, but thats all it was, she wasnt girlfriend material. Made out with others. Most of the girls I met didnt get a second date. I did meet two girls that I am friends with I guess and so on...
The whole process just makes me sick. Those girls become high and mighty there, you need to be someone else, because you have to come up with some retarded pick up line. Althouhh there are girls that prerer normal convos, without pickup lines and so on.
But overall I would say dating apps damage your recovery.

 

Used tinder myself. Found a girl who was my first girlfriend, and now we are just friends (broke up because both had to move - it was too early for long distance relationship).

Tinder is the only app I have used. You will find all kinds of girls there. Some look for something serious, a lot look for just hook up, some for attention, etc.

You can find great people there, they are just normal people remember. A lot of them are people you see everyday.

But if you ever use apps like tinder, it is important to be clear what you are looking for. You can see a big difference on people regarding what they are looking for.
Also tinder is free, so it is not really easy to get scammed.

So to make it clear - yeah it was success for me once, out of many matches. Was it worth it? In my opinion yes, I found the first girl I ever loved. But be careful on there while on nofap, a lot of nude stuff there... and regarding those who post nude stuff, they are most likely not looking for a boyfriend from my experience.

 

From my experience i'm currently staying away from online dating. I'm building my self confidence up in approaching girls and talking to them on the street/ real life. I think it builds better social skills, dealing with rejection, having courage, thinking on your feet and being quick and witty.

I've used tinder before and found some dates. It's good for a stepping stone if you are trying to build your confidence up and just get meeting girls going out with them and to build your confidence up. How ever as Mantasx1 mentioned it's all pretty ridiculous and surreal. The playing ground is definitively not equal for men as women are spoilt with choice. Also the other downside is i end up getting in sexting and relapsing and not even meeting the girl or stop making effort

 

I want to use Tinder or a similar dating app but I feel like it would not help my reboot as having exposure to pictures of attractive women will just lead me on the path to relapse. Like one second you are swiping, the next it becomes social media, then porn etc. Has anyone had any success on using Tinder mindfully? How would you approach it, e.g. seeing a triggering photo... Surely it's playing with fire re relapse? But my work hours are quite long and it's difficult to meet people so I think it could be worth it. Are there any other apps that aren't as... triggering as Tinder, i.e. less of the hookup stuff and more of trying to get to know someone...

 

I think dating apps are good in a way.
It is not the solution for everything. You will still need to contact real woman in the real world if you want to get into relationship. This is my opinion.
You need to look at dating apps as an extra tool to get a relationship, or instant date or whatever. The thing is, I don't think you should put all your nuts on dating apps. You need to find alternative ways as well.

All the best.

 

Yeah I been there, I always ended up M & O over flirty messaging and then once I O i lost all motivation to make effort with the girl and relapsed in to darkness.

 

There is no problem of using tinder or ok cupid. You just need to be ready to stay steady. If you feel that your porn addiction is still too severe so wait with the tinder. Put it on hold. You need to be at the point that you look at woman's breasts and say: this is beautiful. and then stop yourself. keep on going. This is for me using tinder mindfully. It is being aware of your reactions. The best part of it is that you can use this power of lack of control on your reactions into the conversation with the girl. Once you use the power of your hormones to the conversation, the girl will likely more want to meet with you and get to know you better and eventually even hook up with you.

 

I briefly tried a couple of sites like OkCupid over the years but it never really went anywhere.

I tried Tinder and got rid of it within 24 hours I think lol.

I don't think these things are good for me. High relapse potential, some crazy/judgemental/fake women etc.

Also, one time this girl I vaguely know "liked" me and it made me a bit excited. I didn't pursue it for various reasons, but it remained somewhat exciting for a little while if you know what I mean. A while later we happened to notice each other in public but I didn't want anything to do with her. Didn't like her looks, didn't like the fact that she once slept with a guy I now dislike, just not the type of girl I'm interested in. What I'm saying here is, these sites/apps might make girls seem more appealing than they actually are.

 

Hey man. I get your point. But at the same time is a possible opportunity to know someone. So it has its benefits.
I agree with you that you need to be suspicious about it because it still not a real girl that you meet in public, it is a real girl you meet in an app. So the real appointment is just when you meet her in real life, face to face.

 

Yeah I'm not saying they're bad for everyone, just not right for me I don't think.

Perhaps if, like me, a person's P addiction also involved the likes of chat rooms, these sites could be too triggering.