Dancing to replace loneliness

I've practiced many activities during my life, and now that I "am big" (I mean I know what I like and what to I want to do for the rest of my life, how to live, etc. My personality is almost fully developed [since I am in my mids 25]) I discovered that I like to dance, maybe I should say I love to dance.

When I was a kid I didn't like to dance. There was one style of dance wich I felt interested but never took the desicion to practice it, and it was country dance. In march o april of 2019, while I was in university, I had some free time between some classes I had, and a guy was giving dance lessons and I thought that maybe I should give it a chance, and that is how I discovered that I like to dance.

I don't know if it happens with you, but when I am dancing, I can not think in porn or lust (at least not clearly or easily) because or I dance or I focus on porn, I mean I have to put my attention in dancing, otherwise I won't do it properly. And it has helped me to get focus on my mind and concentrate and (as you) to realize that women are not sacred sexual objects, they are as we (men) humans; also having social contact, healthy contact and interaction with women, and a lot of other things.

I've heard that to get rid of some habit you have to replace it with another (although PMO is not just a habit, but an addiction), and dancing really helped me with that. I have to face my fears of learning to dominate something I've never tried in the past, learning to linger even though I wasn't doing very good (at the beginning), learning to fight versus my mind wich used to tell me to give up, to stop trying this and making this effort.

PD. I have danced some few types of dances, but the one I like the most and the one I am currently practicing, and in wich I am better, is country dance. What about you?

 

It could be. And it helps with that, because of the physical contact, communication, syncronization with music (did you know that the feeling that a song makes you feel is very similar to what the others feel?), but I think it is not the path to get out of loneliness. I think that you need to take further steps than just dancing in order to "get ouf ot loneliness". Some people don't want to get involved in relationships (of any kind), or getting to know somebody else, SOME of them just want to dance.

 

From where you are? Do you like techno? I would like to go to club, dance to underground techno, maybe do some molly but i have no one to go with

 

Damn bro, dancing is really good activity and hobby to take up. It loosens the body and the mind (especially for tight asses). Recommended for anybody feeling lonely, or wanting a good energy environment.

 

Started learning Lindy Hop dancing about a year ago. It is INCREDIBLY FUN ! And provides some relief from loneliness. I am 60yo and not in a relationship. The dancing is in a Lindy Hop club and payment in advance is required. They just lifted the vaccination proof requirement. Before I started I was worried about my mental health due to loneliness. Dancing was the obvious thing to do but SO FAR out of my comfort zone ! It's incredible how powerful it is just to hold hands and move in rhythm with another human. All my partners are half my age or younger. I did NOT start this to meet that one special person but just to dance and practice being social. It's quite a physical challenge and here's the biggest non dance lesson I learned the hard way: If you start getting strong feelings about a partner before you know anything about them, JUST STOP dancing and TALK ! Oh- but don't say the wrong things like i did ! LOL Oh- I started only the second month the club started back from covid lockdown.

 

Me? Dancing? I'm two left feet ha! Classes would be fun though and probably everybody should learn to dance.

I find this very admirable. I'm shy but when I get to know a woman I have trouble remaining aloof.

The last two weddings I went to I danced. It was fun. The thought of slow dancing with a woman though is at once exciting and terrifying though. I've only ever done it once.

 

@jarvyjarvison You should TOTALLY take lessons ! If you go regularly, you start to get to know the other regulars. I had to FORCE myself to go the first couple months and learned nothing in that time except that I had to keep going to class if I wanted to become comfortable. I know some of my partners have a mate that doesn't dance. Some are married, at least one is lesbian. One is engaged. No matter. Big age difference. I did not join to find a date. I joined to hold hands with a woman and move in rhythm. Oh and practice being social. That's as difficult as dancing.