Cutting off bad friends feels like leaving an abusive relationship

I cut out all my high school friends a long time ago cause they were excluding me out of things without explanation. I never had a friend group or even a close friend after that. It is lonely but I feel more free.
My opinion is to cut ties with anyone that you feel is holding you back in life because having bad friends is worse than being alone but that’s my opinion.

 

Cut them loose, no regrets. You’ll be better off in the long run. Friends come and go through our lives. Be a positive example but don’t stoop down to their level.

 

You are absolutely not in the wrong. A true friend would be happy for you and your potential new and improved job, a true friend would want what's best for you.

Some people just want to wallow and whinge about life and when they see you trying to improve, it makes them irrationally angry because it challenges the coping mechanisms that they've built in order to justify living a lazy and vapid life. People like this will always try to pull you down whether consciously or not it's just in their nature. Best to cut them off, otherwise they will drag you down too. Your anger is justified, its your survival instincts kicking in.

As for cutting them off my opinion is that its probably best to just slowly fade away. An excuse here and there to justify not meeting up, works getting to be a lot. Then slowly try to find new friends, maybe at the gym or some club. This part is a bit trickier as it's admittedly hard to make friends in our modern society, but if you don't put in the effort it will be much easier to slip back into old bad habits with your toxic friends.

 

Based on your first paragraph I thought this was going to be about being the third wheel with two friends who've known each other longer than they've known you. I know what that's like and it's horrible.

Anyway, you're definitely in the right for wanting to do this. The bitter pill is that after a certain point people like this are a net negative for your life and while it might seem fun to hang out with them for a little while the anger you feel is your brain trying to tell you that in reality you don't actually like spending time with them. I have a friend that makes me feel like that. To cut a long story short I'm basically in a situation where I have to put up with him for the foreseeable future and it's very annoying. Every other person who acts like him however I drop like a lead weight.

Don't fall into the trap of taking the feelings of the other person into consideration when they never gave a shit about yours. It's far too easy to be a doormat for years and then when people get angry at you for refusing to act that way anymore, thinking you are the one at fault. You're not. They are.

 

From the way you describe them it seems like you're not really their friend anyway. Friends don't call friends 'losers.' So yeah, be a man and tell em to fuck off.