Counting the days vs making the days count.

The nofap counter counts the days go by, but it's passive. It's waiting for things to fix itself. It's waiting to live your life at a future date when you think you've attained enough days, but a lot of people here are on the verge of relapse because they haven't filled their lives with better things. Nofap is for getting rid of toxic habits and creating space for better things in your life.

Some of the things that we should really be counting on a daily basis are =

- How many things did I attempt today that might not work? (Porn is easy, certain, and instant gratification. So dealing with difficult, uncertain, and delayed gratification helps to condition you in a more positive and self developing way).

- How many scary, difficult, and uncertain things that leads to becoming the person that I want to be and to have the life that I want to have did I do today? (This helps because people that are porn addicts are usually expecting life to be positive all the time. Whenever any pain, problems, and negative experiences arise they tend to seek escapism).

- How many risks, failures, and rejections did I face today? (The more risks you take, the more you'll fail, but also the more you'll succeed).

- How many times did I courageously push my comfort zone in an area that I'm currently insecure and incompetent in?

You can see a pattern here between a life of PMO and developing your reality. PMO is easy and will satisfy you, but it's devoid of any real substance. Developing your reality is a lot more difficult, scary, and uncertain, but more fulfilling and rewarding. The bigger the barrier, the bigger the reward. The higher quality pain, problems, and negative experiences that you deal with the higher quality the pleasure, solutions, and positive experiences you could have.

I have a lot more respect for the person with 1 day on their nofap counter, but is actively developing their life by stepping out of their comfort zone. More than someone with +500 days, but does nothing with their life and thinks about not relapsing all day.