conquered porn...now not wanting hookups? HELP!?

I just realized what I want RIGHT NOW - to condition self to do in brain.

I have NO DEISRE FOR PORN and haven't touched it in 2 months and is very unappealing to me.

Next, I want to shift my mind to not crave (or think about) hooking up, only do it in a committed relationship. THATS WHATI REALIZE TODAY!!! Anyone advice on doing this? condition self this way?

I want to free my mind!

 

first off, THANK YOU SO MUCH! what powerful questions!
I think I need/want to come up some sort of new beliefs on relationships or just the very idea of hooking up being harmelss when actually it is harmful (unles in relationship) jut my brain is notcing thoughts of "well other peopel do it" whic is rubbish.

I love how you recognie I am already starting ot ocnditon self.
I think i need ot hear it blunt something like hooking up with others make you fele like shit (not that I often do anyyways)...and instead CRAEVE MYSELF, - relastionship should not be depedn on sex as (i know this laready) as AP said...trying to figure out reasons to tel my brain no and condtion self to what I do want.

what im trying to clarify today is I feel like there coudl be soulamte out there fo rme (female) yet at the same time I also feel liek I dont need someone to complete my life which is kind of struggle, either way...anyway sorry if seems confusing.

any further ideas or thing to repeat, THANK YOU AGAIN!

 

ok so I spent much time today going deep on ultimate goal.
I will share what stood out from what you shared and bit of conversation from AP. I'm trying to now go further come up with practical plan and REAOSN WHY TO NOT think about hooking up and reasons to think of perhaps soulmate/relationship true love (while still enjoying myself)

being happy with our place and helping at the banquet of life, that may or may not be helpful.

Maybe the conflict isn't in wanting or not wanting a relationship but rather in how you conceptualize a relationship

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L0_D7ZvFh7k

healthy relationship

1. one you want to be in.

2. you feel supported and encouraged to be best person you can be. be authentic self. Your needs are concerned - get to be you as shift and grow without expected to be what person wants you to be to keep them comfortable.

4. TRUST, honesty respect, shared vision interests. give without expectation of anything in return. You keep finding ways to have that connection, energy, enjoy being together. One I feel safe is really big.

5. Communication is so key. Also aware of my own space.

Cheerful,loving. time because you want to ,not have to.

want to be in, treat person way they want to be treated.

I think this post is already the first step in conditioning yourself. Always remind yourself what is your ultimate goal?

Or as one wise man posted somewhere:

Will acting on this temptation bring me long-term satisfaction\
If I choose to act on this temptation will it make my life better or worse?
Is there a feeling of peace that will come to me if I walk away?
Would I feel better about myself tomorrow if I didn’t act out today?
Answer those questions every day. You will know right answer

2. Learn how to like being alone and enjoy your own company.

3. Open up to the possibilities of a real relationship.

you get to experience affection and love.

 

thank you! Just trying to day make it practical and real. what do you do when see someone "attractive" how do oyu change it? Or what do you do...how to re-wire old brain