Compromise of a high sex drive?

In the middle ages prostitutes were legal because the urges of men were so hard to control and the church/state thought that this was the smallest of all plausible evils (concentrate all the perversion unto a few sacrificial women so that the rest may remain pure). Today, instead we have internet pornography which in many ways is not dissimilar to prostitution except for the fact that it is free (prostitutes are expensive) and that it requires no physical effort (getting up and walking to the far edge of town where the house is takes energy and the townspeople will know what you are up to). There are arguably fewer inhibitors on porn than on prostitutes as far as a man's access so his impulse control becomes much more important.

On the other side there is the perspective of total control, resist all urges indefinitely by willpower. Did you know that when you have a pet bird and you accidentally pet its erogenous zones (basically anywhere but the skull), if there is not a female bird for it to mate with, it will eventually start pulling out its own feathers and picking at its skin with its beak from complete frustration? As men we can commit ourselves to total control but the state of society does not allow this. Women leave the house scantily clad, media is completely sexualized, people are having relations out of wedlock, we live in a totally promiscuous society (I can't even go to the grocery store without a s--- shooting bedroom eyes in my direction). So even though we are in every way superior to birds (except in flight, lol), a sexual urge is bound to arise in us, physically, whether we will it or not, and if we hold out long enough we may not be in a better state than a frustrated bird.

I think it is about managing it the best you can. If you can't control yourself and wank off, don't binge. Make it a one time thing. I've noticed that my anxiety/depression fades so much faster when it is a one off thing instead of a small binge or heavy binge. If I do it once, I can be back to my B+/A- game in 2 or three days, and often when we let the energy build up we don't even need porn to do it. That much I think we are capable of the discipline.

TLDR:
Lets say the longest you can hold out is two weeks. In one month that means you have (14-3)*2=22 days where you are set up for success and if you don't binge and only do it once there are 6 days where you might feel like a C grade or anxious. That's pretty good.

 

I know I will always fall short of my faith...

 

I understand the moral ideal, but I can't help but think that in practice you are either a hypocrite or someone with impotency.

 

Thanks for the advice dude. You really know how to see in between the lines and explain things in a profound way that I never thought of before. Yeah I guess I'm just a pussy for not being able to endure the unrelenting suffering from a lack of sexual connection. I'm gonna work on it by practicing every day.

 

by all means, please share you success story and methods

 

You ever see the movie Amadeus? Well its about a one sided rivalry between Salieri and Mozart. Throughout the entire film Salieri repeatedly complains that he gave his entire sex life to God, he never committed a single sexual sin, yet Mozart, an eccentric partier, is such a better composer than he is. He pleads to God, why can't I be a musical genius?

Well, by the end of the film we very well realize that Salieri had little to 0 sex drive to begin with, so his "sacrifice" of giving sex to God, in fact, meant very little. Your poem inspired such a forgotten memory to arise in my mind, and it is a funny movie, so thank you.