Coming out to a Significant Other about Pron Addiction

topjobm8two · Feb 25, 2019

Hi

I am interested in tips from anyone who is married, and has told their wife about porn addiction.

What is the best way to do it?
Any articles on it I can read?

Most ppl say that I have to tell her to recover and some ppl have some pretty strong views about that - which respect and fully understand.

I am also interested in other perspectives too. I fully accept my addiction and the impacts that has had on my family. I am putting serious effort into my recovery to try and make a small reversal of the damaged caused.

Have you recovered, and not told a SO, and been free of P for over 2 years or more? I am concerned about the "get out of jail free card" that not being honest affords me, but I am keen to know if it can be done.

TY in advance.

Deleted Account · Feb 25, 2019

I told my wife exactly what was going on. I was completely honest, told her I suspected PM was the cause of my ED, and told her about the NoFap. She thought it was a great idea. YMMV, as she doesn't seem to have a moral objection to P, so there was no feeling of betrayal that I had been using it. We just wanted to fix the ED.

I highly recommend the book Practicing Radical Honesty, by Brad Blanton. It's not only a good approach to addiction, but to life in general. No lies, half-truths, or withholding information. The concept seemed terrifying at first, but once I started telling people exactly what was on my mind, it made big changes in my life. Once you are made aware of how many times you lie to people during the average day do you realize how much anxiety it produces. Once you start telling nothing but the truth, that stress melts away. There is no longer anything for me to hide. It is very empowering. It is only when you can be honest with people that you can have a real, mature life as an adult with real, mature relationships with people.

topjobm8two · Feb 25, 2019

DefeatPorn said: ↑

I told my wife exactly what was going on. I was completely honest, told her I suspected PM was the cause of my ED, and told her about the NoFap. She thought it was a great idea. YMMV, as she doesn't seem to have a moral objection to P, so there was no feeling of betrayal that I had been using it. We just wanted to fix the ED.

I highly recommend the book Practicing Radical Honesty, by Brad Blanton. It's not only a good approach to addiction, but to life in general. No lies, half-truths, or withholding information. The concept seemed terrifying at first, but once I started telling people exactly what was on my mind, it made big changes in my life. Once you are made aware of how many times you lie to people during the average day do you realize how much anxiety it produces. Once you start telling nothing but the truth, that stress melts away. There is no longer anything for me to hide. It is very empowering. It is only when you can be honest with people that you can have a real, mature life as an adult with real, mature relationships with people.
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Thanks for sharing this. I am hopeful my wife will have a similar response.

She has caught me before and laughed at me. Perhaps that's a good sign I should cling too.

I found this thread, I was looking for it.

https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/simple-disclosure-vs-full-disclosure.201640/

Fallensoldier1 · Feb 27, 2019

DefeatPorn said: ↑

I told my wife exactly what was going on. I was completely honest, told her I suspected PM was the cause of my ED, and told her about the NoFap. She thought it was a great idea. YMMV, as she doesn't seem to have a moral objection to P, so there was no feeling of betrayal that I had been using it. We just wanted to fix the ED.

I highly recommend the book Practicing Radical Honesty, by Brad Blanton. It's not only a good approach to addiction, but to life in general. No lies, half-truths, or withholding information. The concept seemed terrifying at first, but once I started telling people exactly what was on my mind, it made big changes in my life. Once you are made aware of how many times you lie to people during the average day do you realize how much anxiety it produces. Once you start telling nothing but the truth, that stress melts away. There is no longer anything for me to hide. It is very empowering. It is only when you can be honest with people that you can have a real, mature life as an adult with real, mature relationships with people.
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That sounds great. Like the saying goes, “the truth will set you free”.. literally.

topjobm8two · Feb 27, 2019

Thanks everyone. I told her and it went fine. I wish I told her sooner now.

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