Clubbing during a reboot

Short answer: it depends.

Honestly, you're probably going to get a lot of "nah man you gotta go complete PMO resist the temptation" and whatever.

But, the answer depends mostly on what your particular goals are for PM, or PMO, your story, history, reasons for quitting, etc. I'd say that in almost all cases you should go at least 90-days before going clubbing, or in your case getting with strangers. Again, it depends on your personal goals and story, but generally if you are trying to heal this would likely lead to a relapse for most guys.

PMO is about much more than just quitting PMO, it's about regaining control, discipline and drive. Remember your goals and do not let anything in that could jeopardise your life mission, whatever that may be. If a club is likely to lead to a relapse for you, then you know what you need to do. But it depends completely on your unique reasons.

Hope this makes sense. Good luck with your journey brother.

 

Rewiring your brain to real women is a good thing bro. The issue is when you make the sexual connection to pixels on a screen.

Go have fun at the club man!

 

I'm of a different opinion than @yngmoney, one night stands are not good for anyone. I do understand the feeling of being so riled up that you want to dance it out, though. Engaging in debauchery under the cover of darkness is just an unsatisfying solution to me.

As far as rewiring your brain from pmo, imo its like this. When you masturbate in isolation, all the toxicity of your misplaced sexuality gets entirely reabsorbed into you (hence the downwards spiral). When you hookup, make out, or third base with a girl you have no intention of ever seeing again, the toxicity of your misplaced sexuality gets absorbed by her.

 

How'd you lose your morning wood and erections? Gradually or almost suddenly?

 

I think it's quite normal to loose morning wood once a relapse or a pmo binge. The same apply to me. First day after a relapse I don't have any morning wood, then next 3-4 days I have some decent morning wood and then suddenly I came to flatline for 25-30 days. In my (currently) 35 days streak, I "regained" some soft (I would say 40% hardness) morning wood at ~ day 30. Back in the pmo-addicted era, I never had morning wood.

 

Real life encounters are on a different level than porn. Porn always turns out the way I want it to and real life encounters do not.

For me, the ability to walk outside, meet real women, take real risks, and get real rewards is one of the best parts of quitting the laptop screen girls!

 

I think it depends on the "successful rate" of this. If most (if not all) the "meet real women and take real risks" led to a rejection, it's quite normal to take refuge in porn for a lot of us.

 

Maaaan , i'm kinda jealous not gon lie !!! you have no idea how much i miss intimacy with a female creature no but for real though , i say "miss" as if i ever had it , i'm gonna be 32 years old in a couple of months and i haven't even kissed or hugged a female before (other than family members) but i live in the middle east the culture and traditions here are different there are arranged marriges and stuff like that but anyways i an't gon cry about it and make myself a victim and so on it is what it is , i think that as some fapstronauts mentioned it depends on your goals and your past situation and so on , from my own personal perspective it has benefits to go out into the real world and interact with real life human female creature face to face , it helps unwiring from the fake pixels of light females that we see on screens everyday all day , but i would suggest that instead of going into the interaction with a horndog attitude of sexualizing and objectifying the girls in an impulsive pmo influenced way , then that's not helpful but if you attempted to have deep conversations with the girls like try to figure out their personality and talk about philosophy and literature and existentialism and astronomy and stuff like that , that would be amazing , that would actually gradually shift your mind and perception from females being sex objects to being human being with depth and intellect and personality , also just wanna mention that not having morning wood dose not automatically mean that you have pied , it just happens with the wiring and the flat line and stuff , but i would bet that your Wang is working fine , don't let your mind play tricks on you and use that fear of having pied into relapsing again and justifying it with checking if your Johnson works !!!! Good Luck , i'm sure you will find a girl that's right for you and build an intimate relation together !!!