Chaser effect. what and why

Maybe time sex so your girlfriend is awake for the second round, if she's up for it.

 

Thanks a lot @aron for this enlightening thread !
And thanks a lot as well to @WilliamOneAndDone for his great post !

Now I better understand how it all works !

 

@MusicMan123
This thread might help a bit

 

Thank you for posting this, I think I'm experiencing chaser effect right now, after great sex with my gf. Happy to learn more from this thread.

 

I'm experiencing it right now as well. It' seems to reinforce the idea that "nothing is as good as sex" in our addict brain.

 

the main post here worth a look !

 

I don't really get it.

So the chaser effect basically means: if you PMO once during reboot you simply have an increased desire to PMO again the next day? Isn't that rather the same like a binge?

 

hi man whats'up ?
it means that if u do sex during your reboot it will be very ez to relapse and watch porn after your date because you can not raise the dopamine level enough by regular sex in comparison with watching porn . which means that after doing sex you will not feel satisfied by the amount of dopamine that you have and you will need more . that is why you will sneak into the bathroom while your partner sleeping in order to watch porn , masturbating to feel the real orgasm that you used to . and this is counted as a relapse . hope that I have explained it enough . so in short : " do not do sex during your abstaining of PMO , but if you do , try to sleep immediately or try to wake up your partner to continue instead of PMO in the bathroom , otherwise be ready to fight the hardest urges ever .

 

But when a girl is around me and I find that’s semen on my dick, does that mean I relapsed during my streak?

 

If you’re on hard mode yes. However many of us are only doing PM since sex is good for a relationship if you are in one. I’m married so I am doing normal mode of just no P or M. When I first started trying to recover it seemed really important to do hard mode at least for a while (say maybe a month) before having sex with my wife otherwise I’d relapse really easily due to the chaser effect.

 

Omg, I used to do this. Immediately after sex I would PMO. I thought it was ok because I was having real sex and a bit of PMO wouldn't hurt. I would even sometimes look at P images to get aroused before having sex with my gf.

I realise that even though I did not experience ED and could still function sexually, I was experiencing the more subtle negative effects of all the dopamine hits from frequent PMO; brain fog, depression, unmotivated, disinterested, uninspired, no pleasure, sexual estrangement from my gf and a ubiquitous dull flatness.

Now I am rebooting while also seeking and engaging in sex. Hopefully I think I've found someone who will be my regular hookup so I won't have to engage in the online seeking activity. But this is a challenge and I am feeling the strong chaser effect and desire to MO following my sexual episode with her. My only resolution is to try to meet her again now which is what I am doing. Feeling like an addict.. ❤

 

I had a lot of urges, so I masturbated trying to look at my wall( Unfortunately, some images of old videos came back to mind).

I thought it would help alleviate the urges, but It did not. Now, the chaser effect is kicking-in hard.