Hi fellow warriors, Two years have past since a desperate young man made his first thread, starving for a change in his life. Probably I could not have fitted the stereotype better. Addicted from a young age, just like many others I could barely remember what a addiction-free life felt like. And just as many others I faded away before the end of the month. A good resolution seemed doomed and gone, buried deep in the ground with all the other once made o-so-life-changing-resolutions in my past. But it did not: Nofap kept itching in the back of my mind, slowly getting a hold of me. It made it impossible to run away any longer. there was no denying the truth; change had to come. uncompromising and unconditional. 180* turn and nothing else. I started doing a lot of self development and soon i embraced that change would not come if i did not change my habits. my habits were set-up traps to make me fail in whatever task I took upon me. Nofap, living healthy, getting a peacefully mind, becoming mentally tough. The traps were always there to pull me back into the beta-male loser hole i lived in. Working shitty jobs followed by smoking my brains out only to be alternated by getting drunk with some friends. (the people you surround yourself with to maintain the habits you have in common so you don't have to feel bad about it) One at the time: I approached this new change by cutting away each bad habit and replacing it with a new one. One after another. It started with mornings; getting up early and working out. getting my mind in line with my goals by meditation and listening to motivational audio.(interviews, lectures or anything to get me pumped.) and later my whole day was up for a cut. Just quitting P. is not enough: At the beginning I used to thing that P. was the problem but it is not. It is a symptom of a underlying issue. One that is different for each and everyone of us. We have to go all the way into our darkest places deep in the back of our mind. From what i have learned from the science behind nofap and some personal accounts: you have to quit PMO all together or it won't work. The dopamine released during M will leave you craving for more and put you off balance. GO ALL THE WAY! One goal to rule them all: I realized that one goal; to lose my addiction (pmo) lay at the very center of all my other goals. If I want to succeed and live to the fullest of my potential i have to face this demon. Nothing is for nothing: I used to think that failed streaks were worth nothing. As if all the energy, fight, and time had been lost. IT'S NOT. each streak makes you stronger and as long as you keep working on all your other habits and changing your life for the good you will stand a better chance each time! The tides have changed: I am a weird, I am crazy. That's the definition that will society put on me once they realize what I am up to all day. Not in any bad way, to release you from your worries. It's just that I have erased most of the comfort in my life. No tv, no videogames, no junkfood, weed, alcohol or anything along these lines. I have started a habit of reading and writing(I used to fail miserably at both in school). I workout each morning and rise at 6 everyday(weekends included). I take ice cold baths 5 times a week (if you feel like trying this check out the Wim Hof method! Don't try this without the right knowhow!) Even without a successful streak of longer than 2 months my life has transformed beyond recognition. I am grateful for everything that happend so far and even more for everything to come. Also I feel more happy and confident everyday! Sometimes a bit of anxiety lifts itself up but I have learned that these are the moments to defeat your demons! It is time to quit PMO for real: to make it the main objective. I feel like my life is better suited for the challenge now. I am in a better shape then ever before. I understand that I am not 'there' yet. but where the *** is that anyway? My personal truth: 'there' has no 'where'. It is no place you can reach. It is a direction, a path. And I am willing to hike that path for the rest of my life. Unconditional. Without compromise. And how about you? I don't believe people get to a place like this to 'just' try and get a better life for themselves. First of all I believe you fell down the well we all did but that's a no-brainer. Secondly I believe you are here because you are *** awesome; your seeking to make your life worth living. To escape the giant flock of mediocrity that is full of addicted people. Addicted to all sorts of things and in these modern times more then ever before. but you; you will outshine all of those who do not dare to face their dark side. I believe that. Do you? I did not expect this 'hey, I'm back to nofap thread' to be a long story but I'm content with it. Hope some of my experience can help you. I view myself as a nofap recruit starting from rank zero. Any tips, experience or information is more than welcome!
