Changed for my wife, but she won't change for me

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by megaman85, Mar 19, 2018.

  1. Yes, for example last night we watched a movie together like we've always done. We're having dinner together as usual. Kiss when we leave for work and we when get home. That sort of thing.
     
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  2. Gooding

    Gooding Fapstronaut

    To me it sounds you are still inseparable
     
  3. Gooding

    Gooding Fapstronaut

    That is a good thing...
     
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    If it weren’t for the stepdaughter fantasy and MO... but I’m still so proud of him for telling me that part... It was extremely brave.
     
  5. Gooding

    Gooding Fapstronaut

    Seriously guys won't reveal such things. I had watched all sorts of taboo P. I wasn't even aware that P could cause addition. I am glad I learnt that before it messed up my brain too much.

    Sex is fundamental fabric and definitely foundation for all forms of parent/child bonds.... But like how food, shelter, health is fucked up by capitalism/industrialization .... Sex today is messed up too. In some sense, porn is worst compared to even prostitution.

    We need a movement to regulate porn
     
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  6. Long term dishonesty is really hard to get over. Before we were married she found out I watched porn regularly. The issue for her wasn't porn itself, it's that I hid it from her and lied when caught. I think eventually it would have bothered her because that's the nature of the beast, but my lying is what hurt her the most. Granted, I lied a few times versus hundreds as your husband did. She was very clear that if I lied to her again it was over. The last time I relapsed I told her and it was crushing... I had been clean for over six months, so it was a personal failure as well as failing her. But I didn't lie because I promised to be honest, not to ever look at porn again. The reason being it's an addiction and realistically I'll be battling this my whole life. It must be really tough for you. I don't think I could stay with someone that consistently lied for 7 years. As Gooding stated, "Your real fight is not his recovery from PA, rather his lack of loyalty."
     
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