Catholic / Orthodox Fapstronauts

I'm in on the weekend prayer for all NoFap member, and in fact even non-members who struggle with the same demons we all do.

On a similar.note, the courage to be Chaste book had a gem of a quote originated by Michelangelo that I decided would be very appropriate for our forum: "The greater danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss, but it is too low and we reach it."

Are we setting our No-PMO goals too low? Mine is at 90 days, but I will definitely not be satisfied with that. I'm going to figure it for 34 years (I would be 92 at that time) because that's the age I use for retirement planning figuring chances are that I'll pass on by that time. They say you should set realistic goals, and this is the ideal target that I want to strive for.

Oh and one more thing. Receiving Holy Communion was most awesome today! I also drank from the chalice ,and returned to kneel at my pew and pray. I actually had tears in my eyes as a result of the gravity of the situation. I am also reading a book called Rediscovering Catholicism. This is a mighty powerful book written by Matthew Kelly, and it covers a myriad of ideals reasonings, encouragement, and guidance. Mr Kelly says a person should go to Church 10 minutes each weekday and just talk to God. Ask Him to help you with your days challenges, and ask Him to help you to put in the best possible day in Christ's name that you can. He claims that you won't believe how much difference this will make in your life within a only a short period of time. I bicycle to work, and it only takes me about 5 minutes. I figure that if I instead biked to Church, spent 10 minutes there, and then biked to work, I would only have to leave the house 35 minutes earlier each day. I think I might try this. I originally thought I might catch one weekday mass each week (I actually went last Tuesday after work), but the weekday masses are scheduled sporadically and usually take place at 9:00 am when I'm at work. I am also attending a Catechism class on Wednesday evenings, so I'm pretty immersed with religion at this point, but that's alright.

That's all for now. I'm going bass fishing tomorrow, and my buddy is picking me up at 6:00 am, ouch!

Peace and a joyous Sunday to you all!

 

Hello everyone. I just joined and I think this thread is what the good Lord ordered up for me. I am a cradle Catholic and try to practice my faith the best I can, minus what got me to this site and place in life. I decided a while back to become a better man and to do this was by living a pmo free and chaste life. I am 26 days in and I have been going through flat line for the past few weeks. Hoping to get out of this soon. In reading what you all have posted here, it gives me hope that I can become a better man. I will keep every reason who is dealing with the same issues as us in my prayers. God is good all the time!

 

Keep it up man!

 

Welcome, SoccerGuy, put on that Godly armor and keep up the good fight!

 

I thought maybe you guys could help me with something that has been bugging me.

In the past year, I have been able to reduce down my "mo" habit to about once every 2 weeks, but I would look at porn or other suggestive images on a regular basis; maybe a half an hr at a time max. I believe this life style has led me to have some side effects such has urine leakage and weak pelvic floor muscles. The only reason I would "mo" is when I would go to the bathroom and leak pre ejaculate fluid; I thought that this was my body's way of saying hey it's time to release the kraken that has been building up. The leakage didn't really occur until the last few years and I didn't think too much of it because it happened at home.

In short though, over time I started to feel guilty about my habit and started to exhibit ocd symptoms with cleaning. I would do my business and then feel like I had to clean everything that I had touched or possibly have touched in the bathroom. Once again though I would do the cleaning and feel fine since I was in my place. I got tired, of this lifestyle and decided that I needed to stop and I did cold turkey; since I mentioned before that I have no gf and don't plan on having cloitus until marriage.

I though got freaked out about 7 days in when I was at work and I noticed dried leakage in my underwear; I do not know how it got there. I immediately started to panic and started to think about what I came in contact with and with whom I was around. This is something that I worry about on a daily basis since I am constantly around others and there is only 1 bathroom for both men and women to use. My ocd is that I worry about unintentionally harming others and feeling unclean. I know that I have no diseases, but still worry, am anxious quite a bit, withdrawn, and just not feeling like myself. That is in part why I am here. Part of me wants to stop this so that I can return to "normal". The other part of me is telling me that need to continue on this journey to become the man I know that I am. So with the help of this community and a therapist for the ocd, I hope to change. Ultimate goal is to live a celibate lifestyle until marriage.

In the mean time, please help with my worry about the leakage. Any suggestions to help cope with my worries/stress or things I can do to lessen them? I have leaked about 3 times since starting hard mode. Is this something that will disappear?

Thank you for reading this and for any advice.

 

I'm not sure what the worry is. Some guys leak pre-ejaculate fluid more than others - and it's probably normal either way. Is yours always occasioned by sexual thoughts/temptations (knowingly or unknowingly) during PMO abstinence - again, I think this is common, too. I have had this happen to me at work, especially during the 2- to 5-week period of recovery, when I'm being plagued by sexual thoughts. I'm usually more concerned about the thoughts themselves and to use the right recovery tools for such thoughts so that I won't relapse later - I'm not as concerned with the leakage or stained underwear (pre-ejaculate is clean and sterile), even though I don't like the wet feeling at the onset. And, I have gone to the men's room to pat dry. But, I know there's not a problem of anyone noticing otherwise - my underwear acts as an absorbent barrier. In the end, I think that we're just talking about normal, male biology here - pre-ejaculate fluid is normal, as the body prepares for what it thinks may be an upcoming occasion for release, presumably in sexual intercourse. That's how the male sex organ
functions. It need not be something to worry or stress about. I actually had it happen at home today, too, as sexual thoughts have been parading around - but I've kept up the good fight and have been victorious - that's more important to me than some wetness. I hope that helps, my brother. You're not the only guy who gets this.

 

Thank you for assuring me that I am not going through something unusual. The fluid isn't a result of any sexual thoughts/temptations and that's what scared me since it felt like I had no control of when it happened. Also it scared me in part due to my OCD; when I meet the Lord above, I think I get a few free passes for having to deal with the ocd lol. You sharing your story did help me out a bit. I just have to adopt the manta that my underwear are a shield; maybe get some Captain American underwear lol.

Thank you and Godbless.

 

its good to have you on the site soccerguy. I read your posts below, and I'll be you'll find some good advice and peace of mind on this site. Looking forward to exchanging thoughts with you.

Peace always,

 

Hey everyone,

Haven't been posting as much as I should have recently. But I'm still doing alright. Wrapping up day 23.

Just wanted to share a really powerful video that I watched today:



Hope this helps to remind us all what we're working towards, and who is always there to help us.

 

Relapsed this morning. Starting again. I wish I could go back to non smart phone. The ease of access to P is what kills me.

 

Shut off the access to data, and you will have a "non-smart phone." It's all within your own control, dumpster,you just need to take the iniative and do what's right. You need to be strong. You need to have discipline and perseverance. You can do this, and furthermore, your way will be paved if you take on this journey while holding God's hand!

 

Hi friends,

just passing here. Today I've been in the Archbasilica of Saints John the Baptist and the Evangelist in Rome, and visited many other churches. I remebered each one of you, wonderful group of fellow Christians, in my prayers. Intensely asked for our spiritual healing, bros.

God bless you.

 

It is hard sometimes to remember who is always there for us no matter what. God's unconditional love for us is so amazing. Thanks for posting the video.

 

another prayer which i find helpful, when i pray it of course, is the Canon to Saint Mary of Egypt, Victor over Carnal Passions. it is available through Ancient Faith; i'm too new to be able to share links, but in case you are not aware of Ancient Faith, you can easily find them by searching the name.

 

i did the consecration last year. a friend had recommended it several times and when I was talking to another friend and related this to him, he immediately went and got his copy of '33 Days to Morning Glory', handed it to me and told me to stop putting it off.

my first friend confided to me that one of the benefits he experienced was an incredible change in his habit of M'ing. in truth, i've done such a poor job of letting Mary carry me to Jesus that i've been thinking of posting about the struggle to really let go in my blog. i expect to title the post 'Runaway Slave.' however, i'm certain that Her dedicated effort to track down and bring this slave back home is what lead me here.

with great appreciation for everyone's constant prayers,
Peace and Love!

 

Today's is such a great day for reflecting on Mary - as it is the feast day of the Holy Name of Mary - a name demons fear.

There is no particular astonishment that demons fear God's power - for they know God is greater than they. In their fallen angelic nature, however, they refused (in foresight) to pay homage to God's incarnate Son - they would not bow to the human side of Jesus, who is also God, yet they do know that Jesus is the holy one of God (as they testify in the Gospels even), so their pride is only slightly more wounded there. But, with Mary, demon pride is completely crushed (crushed by the woman), because they cannot stand her complete purity and humility (Mary's greatest weapon) and cannot approach her even because of it - in God's eternal wisdom, demons face their complete humiliation in being subjected and defeated by a human woman, who totally lives in the ever-free and unfailing acceptance of God's grace as the very essence of her life.

Likewise, if we remain humble (which means living in the truth of who and what we are before God - neither debasing our humanity nor aggrandizing it), then demons will not be able to approach us either, save but God's will to whatever the degree He permits to make us stronger in the fight.

God bless my friends.

 

Thank you Joe for a very appropriate verse. i always enjoy reading your posts.

Peace, brother

 

Hi. I go to church and I am happy to join this thread.

Are you worried because God told the hebrews to wash themselves after they ejaculate ?
I read that one woman would clean her house before praying as a purification.

Read this :

Spoiler: extract from the gospel of Saint Matthew

15 About this time some Pharisees and teachers of the Law of Moses came from Jerusalem. They asked Jesus, 2 “Why don’t your disciples obey what our ancestors taught us to do? They don’t even wash their hands before they eat.”

3 Jesus answered:

Why do you disobey God and follow your own teaching? 4 Didn’t God command you to respect your father and mother? Didn’t he tell you to put to death all who curse their parents? 5 But you let people get by without helping their parents when they should. You let them say that what they have has been offered to God.6 Is this any way to show respect to your parents? You ignore God’s commands in order to follow your own teaching. 7 And you are nothing but show-offs! Isaiah the prophet was right when he wrote that God had said,

8 “All of you praise me
with your words,
but you never really
think about me.
9 It is useless for you
to worship me,
when you teach rules
made up by humans.”

What Really Makes People Unclean
10 Jesus called the crowd together and said, “Pay attention and try to understand what I mean. 11 The food that you put into your mouth doesn’t make you unclean and unfit to worship God. The bad words that come out of your mouth are what make you unclean.”

12 Then his disciples came over to him and asked, “Do you know that you insulted the Pharisees by what you said?”

13 Jesus answered, “Every plant that my Father in heaven did not plant will be pulled up by the roots. 14 Stay away from those Pharisees! They are like blind people leading other blind people, and all of them will fall into a ditch.”

15 Peter replied, “What did you mean when you talked about the things that make people unclean?”

16 Jesus then said:

Don’t any of you know what I am talking about by now? 17 Don’t you know that the food you put into your mouth goes into your stomach and then out of your body? 18 But the words that come out of your mouth come from your heart. And they are what make you unfit to worship God. 19 Out of your heart come evil thoughts, murder, unfaithfulness in marriage, vulgar deeds, stealing, telling lies, and insulting others. 20 These are what make you unclean. Eating without washing your hands will not make you unfit to worship God.

 

Hello all just wanted to post to get some prayer cover. Been going strong with no PMO but had some really strong urges tonight. I want to stay away from this not only for me but for my family.

Thanks all

 

Hello, have you heard about "Mary Untier of Knots" ?



She unties the knots of the ribbon of our life. The knots are our troubles, our difficulties, our sins.
I recommend you to pray with the novena and a rosary.