cant forget my ex even after nearly 6 years

I really like a quote from Jean Paul Sartre:
“If you're lonely when you're alone, you're in bad company.”
We need to learn not to make our happiness based on someone else.

For sure. Its like if when you are with someone for a very long time you create a comfort zone I would say its nature evolution related. Like you dont need to evolve to reach an objective anymore, some girl or happier emotional status so we settle in mediocrity.

There are so many options in this planet, that its even irrational for us humans to think it wont be someone else, but we always do :/

 

I'm not sure what you are trying to say.

 

Sorry I dont usually write a complex things in English

Have you heard about chaser and Coolidge effects? The energy that your body gives you after sexual long time waited sexual activity and the desire to find new partners, so I have read they might be related to higher self development men can achieve after a breakup and being alone and abstaining

 

Try to follow the YouTube channel 'Mensutra' by Swatab Genguar. You will definitely find videos on your topic and u will surely get motivated and find the energy to move on from problem

 

Yes, getting energy from the chaser effect is a bad idea, because

then you have just used P, M or O to get it.

The Coolidge effect is probably what brings that sex drive you speak of.

Harnessing that desire for variety sure got me cranked up when I first started.

 

I would suggest doing a full 90 day non PMO reboot before you start looking for a girl.

It's kind of hard for younger guys to understand. I probably wouldn't have understood.

But, if I could go back in time, I would have used my late teens/early adult years to

reboot and set up my life, and take a few years doing it.

If you don't know your life's mission yet, now is the time.

If you do, then maybe it's time to make some progress.

Because if you get with a girl now, and things don't work out,

you could end up back on the PMO,

which messes up the trajectory of a good future.

Think about it.

 

Hi. Since you got so much time trying to overcome your rupture, maybe you should find some psychotherapeutic help. I read a lot about it because I'm kind in the same way with my ex gf.
And as a latino, I also recomend you to read this article: https://exploringyourmind.com/get-away-ex-according-walter-riso/

It's about a book from an argentinian psychologist, Walter Riso, who especializes in breakups, emotional dependencies, etc.
The name of this book is Now That I’ve Said Goodbye, How Do I Forget You?

I'm thankful that I could have this resource in my worst moments after my breakup. Last day I was thinking that it is sad that there isn't a lot of this kind of forums in spanish (like NoFap); and with a scientific background like this one there is none, so I'm thankful that I can read and speak in english.
So I'd be kind of happy if this book, written by a latinamerican psychologist, can help you. He's a very inteligent man, and also approach this theme not just from the scientific perspective, but also by a philosofical perspective and in a way that's very profound but also very easy to understand.