I have DE (delayed ejaculation) due to porn addiction. Long story short is I got a wonderful girlfriend and I discovered with her I cannot orgasm or ejaculate. What she does to me feels wonderful so it's not her technique. Connected the dots between porn and masturbation techniques (death grip) can cause it. I haddiscovered that I masturbate about every 20 days to porn. Now I want to stop but today is my second relapse into that habit. Need to break it. My girlfriend is patient and understanding but I don't want to push it too far. For myself and the woman I love I have to beat this habit. Advice would be helpful. Oh and a little bit of info that I think might help is I usually am alone when the urges hit and I'm bored. Getting occupied sounds like an obvious solution but I've found recently around the 20th day I make excuses to be alone. Please give advice.
Yes you need to channel that energy into something more constructive and in time your brain and body will re-dress the balance/harmony that has been lost between them. I have found reading and posting on here has been a huge 'diversion' but you will need more than that, exercise etc, whatever lights your candle, speaking of which what is to give light must endure burning and so you are going to have to be prepared to change and deal with the accompanying 'growing pains'. You will get other equally valid advice as theres a healthy balance of perspectives on this site but for now see if these ideas help... http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?2655-The-Way-of-Harmony Also see recommendations below. I quit heavy drinking, smoking, and cannabis on the same day in 2008 after 25 years of use and abuse and these really really helped me break the cycle. All the best
Honestly mate if its help you want you've come to the right forum! Just watch the space beneath this post...
Do 200 pushups when you get the urge is what I've heard. I have that same problem near 20 days, haven't made it that far yet. Good luck man
I'm not meaning this in a bad way but you might want to change your handle to something more positive "meatbeater" says you're still MOing and might be holding you back mentally. Yeah it's small and maybe doesn't really matter but we all need to start off on a good note and our name on her says a little about us. Educate yourself on the problem. That really helped me
