@AlmostRuined thank you for that post Do you think that MO I did yesterday and boosting dopamine was a bad think or not? I mean if it can affect my ability to get hard when it comes to real deal?
It was unnecessary but now you know that. When you are in love with a girl and she's ready to play around, I have no doubt you'll have a tree branch in your pants! Just wait for that special girl and let her do the wood working. In the meantime, let your wood continue to cure.
It can take up to 2 years to reboot fully, one MO won't stop your progress, you'll get the arousal you need by engaging in sex, it's actually rewiring. Id say nofap works in 2 steps, 1 stopping PMO and 2 engaging in normal sex to rewire your taste to wanting sex instead of PMO. I MO'd 4x after 220 days free and i'd say it's better to stay on NoFap and no porn. I lost some of my superpowers which i want again... Just find yourself a girlfriend - easier said than done
Please don't attempt to purposely rewire your brain. Fall in love, treat her special and respectfully and let nature takes its course.
What is the point of sex, to you specifically @mirob ? If you feel a need to engage in sex, well you don't have to. You can live your entire life never MO'ing again, if that is what you wish. If it is procreation (or kids) you could always adopt (just get one that looks kind of like you lol). Maybe you just want the cuddles? The intimacy and such? well having sex by itself (even without so much as getting to know the person's name) has been proven to make you attached to said person, some even go as far as to say that "casual" sex doesn't even exist because there is always some emotion involved. I just think you are being pessimistic about it, I would advise you wait until a lady comes along before you start to actually worry about it. Even if, when you do start the romp, you can't get it up, so what? It would probably just be stage fright, just use your tongue and fingers in that case. You are making things dark when really they are sunshine.
From when you start your journey, i'm not saying a 2 year long streak ~ even though it's a lot easier than you think
I REALLY hope so since I am just 19 days in this. Also read that the 90-day thing is not a definite number which I can understand given we are not all the same. Just scary that reading some folks are even worst off after reaching this "magic" number. https://www.NoFap.com/forum/index.php?threads/has-anyone-never-recovered.61885/#post-467303
2 years is not the right number. It's not about the days more about how your brain feels once you have stepped outside of this addiction. Of course if you keep peaking at porn and/or fantasize about porn while rebooting, it will take longer to heal. 90 days is a pretty number as most people start feeling normal at this time and you don't get those heart racings when you think about porn.
Whoa! Okay thanks for clearing up. I really hope so. I just started this some three weeks ago and I am still learning about all of this. Well I don't have any more porn images/scenes running in my head which is a great thing. There was a time where every time I close my eyes it was just constant porn scene after porn scene.
I have been a hardcore addict and been trying nofap for the last 6 years. Currently I am on day 42 and flashbacks and withdrawals have reduced quite a bit. I am already feeling the signs of recovery. Of course you have to incorporate other positive things such as working out, staying busy, staying social etc to heal faster. Don't pay too much attention to the numbers; just focus on how your mind feels and slowly you will notice the benefits.
Exactly. We are definitely on the same page. My post here explains things further... https://www.NoFap.com/forum/index.p...-you-can-stop-porn-forever.63856/#post-482495
Porn could creep back up after a long period of reboot if you don't have or do anything meaningful in your life. Just like a person who is jobless and watches TV all day is likely to get obese by binging on junk foods and sodas everyday.
Well I think you have the answer to help eliminate this. To have passion and purpose about something. Not just to stop but a reason to.
That fear will be there sometimes, but let me ask you one question do you wake up with morning wood? do you experience night erections? If none of the above the problem might be physical. If you experience one or both then it is psychological and you should relax and don't get sexually involved until you find someone who you feel totally comfortable with and who just want to cuddle and hug. You might end up with a strong erection.
So can you get hard at all? morning wood, evening erections? It sounds more like a physical more than psychological.