Bragging on my husband

I am so proud of my husband. I know we've still got a long way to go because he wants to be done with his sexual addiction for good, but so far we have had some success.

Long story short, about three months ago we really started talking more openly about his addiction, even though I've known about it for about five years (he came to me before we were married and told me about his problem).

So since the end of November, he's had me ask him every night if he PMO'd that day. Besides one fall at the beginning, the answer has been no. So it's been about 8 weeks since porn, and 6 weeks since m. He says his usual cycle was about 21 days. Now it's been twice that. I'm so thankful and proud of him.

The accountability has been extremely helpful. I didn't want to be the accountability partner, but he's told me that it only makes sense that I am the one to help him, since I'm the one he doesn't want to hurt. If I'm going out of the house for a few hours the next day, leaving him alone, we discuss what he'll do if tempted--which room he'll run to, or if he'll go step outside, or go to pray. Having a plan beforehand has helped avoid falls.

Prayer has also helped. Every night without fail we have said some prayers from the Akathist before the icon of the Inexhaustible Cup, which is especially for people with addictions of all sorts.

There's hope, even if it starts small. But it begins with honesty with yourself, then your significant other if you have one. Good luck to everyone struggling. It's always a struggle, for all involved. But I wish you all the best in your own journeys.