Bouncing your eyes

So true man! No reasons are good enough to make an exception. Abstinence has it's own and direct rewards.

I have been greatly challenged lately. While being outdoors during winter here in Sweden is quite safe (since everyone is dressed up like eskimos then) a summer as hot as this one has certainly not been as easy. God bless the cold autumn breezes finally arriving!

In an attempt to rationalize taking a peak (or in all honesty, to stare) at girls, usually my thoughts goes something like this: "you just have to look at her, she's the most attractive person ever" - which is a porn damaged brain's way to react on the real world. But that thought contains sooo much fault. I mean, even if someone is attractive, what good would staring do? Just priming your values and desires to be something lesser than they could.

What I had to start telling myself was, that no matter how God damn attractive someone is, the only dignified, worthy, self-respecting, healthy and wise thing to do is to take the chance to fight of craving and act as if You're the prize (if you do, you are), not the hungry beggar.

Same goes with pictures, like you said, look away as if it was medusa you've spotted. Just let them eyes bounce!

 

I've been struggling in this area for the past couple of weeks, it's good to get a kick in the ear so to speak! My issue is I've recently come back into a good place with my ex who happens to also be my baby mother. Old sexual feelings have come up and now I'm in control, no a chance in hell of PMO. Or any other sexual activity. But avoiding the thoughts, however non-pornographic, is the challenge. What do you think, is it damaging to think sexually about a woman I was in love with? And bear in mind even while I was addicted to PMO there was a huge neural pathway dedicate to her

 

Imagine your grandmother is watching you open the pornhub tab....... now rethink what you are doing

 

Was this directed to me? =o
Never mind I'll answer it either way!
I think an attractive man is not one who stares, so doing that only takes one further away from getting with a real human being. For men, behaviour > looks.
And to answer your question I do not consider myself Christian actually ^^'