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Borderline question

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by luskos, Apr 18, 2017.

Should i reset the counter for watching erotic movie with no M or O involved?

Poll closed Apr 25, 2017.
  1. Yes

    22.2%
  2. No

    77.8%
  1. luskos

    luskos Fapstronaut

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    Do you have to close PMO circle to count it as relapse?Watching P., doing M., and having O.?.Last night watched erotic movie, not P. video!Just for pleasure...There was no M involved and no O.

    I'm sure this is kind of a setback surely there was some dopamine released, and this is some slippery slope!

    Not so obsessed with numbers but borderline situations are the hardest to analyze properly.Should i restart the counter?
     
  2. Jeezus, that's a good question. I guess you would ask yourself about the intent? If you meant it, then yeah
     
  3. sparkywantsnoPMO

    sparkywantsnoPMO NoFap Moderator & Yeoman

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    First off, the principle of this site is to allow people to set their own goals for a healthy lifestyle. Now, according to NoFap's rebooting guide (https://www.nofap.com/rebooting/), it seems to indicate that commonly, it means you will refrain from any of the activities (in Boolean logic, OR, not AND). Therefore, yes I would count it as a reset, but YMMV.

    Outside of that, ask yourself if it is helpful to watch P? What are your motivations for quitting? Does watching P help or hinder those motivations?
     
  4. luskos

    luskos Fapstronaut

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    Wasn't familiar with rebooting guide until now i was using youtube videos as a compass, later will scroll trough it but i will take your word for the boolean logic.

    Surely not so helpful to watch, it was kind of what if situation.Sometimes it seems like training for a competition without giving you sparing partner or telling you what's your best time is.That is some guys report that a lot more has happened for a month than i experience.Now i feel definitely stronger than before, my old self needed only a hint or a thought was enough to set the mood for a binge.I am glad i didn't M and O.That's the effect of few days skipping the meditation practice which helped me so much until now.It keeps me focused.

    My motivations for quitting is to get rid of anxiety, find a girl or at least to have some fun time trying.If fear of reject vanishes then probably it's really fun and enjoyable experience to date women.I want to practice my flirt skills just for pleasure of having something to smile after i got the attention of the random girl at the Q in the supermarket.I want to feel again the same as i was before the addiction.I know that PMOing is the root of my problems and i am glad that i found that for myself, some guys live all their lives not knowing they have locked their best self.Everything else should come to place after this addiction is no longer the biggest issue.Many guys talk about improvement in numerous areas of their life after they quit.

    Your last question is kind of like your expression - YMMV(googled it).If i put it in the same terms it's like driving a car and kind of find out that your leg suddenly became heavy on the gas.You might be caught by the speeding camera you might not.The difference here is that you don't go to authorities to tell them because they can't prove it anyway if they didn't witness it.So again YMMV.Even better example is the same as above but the guy who break the speed limit is also police officer.Corrupt authorities are not uncommon thing, but i think as myself as a guy with good moral compass and bad habit.This said i think the best outcome is for the officer to put a dollar in the charity jar next time he report for duty.So i think the timer should reset.Which will be tomorrow morning because personally found out it's less stressful for me that another tick of the counter passed while i am in the bed.
     
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  5. J247

    J247 Fapstronaut

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    Did you intentionally watch this movie or was it a clip in a movie?
     
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  6. luskos

    luskos Fapstronaut

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    It was erotic comedy.It was intentional i wanted to see some human interaction.Some are really cheap but some can tell really good story and women are actually shown in more realistic light than P.It wasn't an urge just general desire to watch a movie like any other movie.
     
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  7. J247

    J247 Fapstronaut

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    Hmmmm. Honestly I don't think it'd be a relapse. Kinda like if you went to an art exhibit and saw a nude statue or a painting of a nude individual. That's not porn. You didn't see it with intentions of MO or for erotic reasons, therefore I think you're in the clear.
     

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