Betrayal, the secrecy factor

Hi all,
I have subscriptions to many marriage support sites, affair recovery and now PA.

This article came up in my email and I wanted to share it.
As I was reading this I noticed the words affair, PA and SA can be inner changeable especially in talking about the secrecy of it all.
So even if it’s just P videos and everything in between physically acting out with someone else this quote kinda hit home with me. When I think of the highs and lows over the years in regards to my hubby.

“On a good day, when things are going well, I’m committed to my wife.
On a day when things are just okay, I’m committed to my marriage.
And on a day when things aren’t so great,
I satisfy myself by being committed to my commitments.”

Here’s the link to article if anyone is interested.

https://www.affairrecovery.com/newsletter/founder/betrayal-the-secrecy-factor?utm_source=Article+of+the+Week&utm_campaign=176c277d58aotw_12_13_2017&utm_medium=email
&utm_term=0_ba782628b7-176c277d58-312937197

I will add the other parts are good too.

 

I saw it as the selfishness of it all on the last one. They find themselves committed to only them. The commitment to their selfish wants and perceived needs above the SO and relationship.
It’s “going bad” so the rationalizations to justify the behaviors to make all ok.
Does that help clarify how I thought of it?

 

The first, on a good day he’s committed to me, he’s thinking of me, would go out of way to something nice, communicate better.

The middle, may not be feeling close or connected but the marriage is still a priority to an extent. The danger zone!

Then the last!

All of these stages would come and go with us. We would have good times when we were on the same page and United front, respectful of each other. The uncertainty at times in the middle then the bad phases. The highs and lows, the lows your more susceptible the temptations and acting out.