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Being the Background Character

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Porn Killer, Jan 15, 2018.

  1. Porn Killer

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    Okay. So I know this frustration is partially from the reboot. but I also have ADHD and have kinda delt with this most of my life.

    Does anyone else feel like a background character? Like when you watch a movie or tv show. You aren’t the main character or the side character, your the one who is not in focus wandering around behind the other actors.

    Like I feel like all my friends and family are all main characters in someway but I’m not. My story isn’t told, my story doesn’t progress, I don’t get a happy ending, I don’t save the day, and I don’t get the girl.

    You always imagined you would be the hero in your own story but you look back and realize you’re not.

    I’m just getting it off my chest and letting off steam. It’s been a tough day today. I’ll be better by tomorrow or at least soon.

    Does anyone else feel like this?
     
  2. I know how you feel. I actually tend to be a pretty popular guy in groups of people, but I have to force myself to talk and be around people. And then after parties, I tend to come home and kinda just cry because I feel like all of my friendships I built were disingenuous and not real. It is crazy how we can be in a room full of people and still just be so lonely
     
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  3. Porn Killer

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    Ironically, being in a room full of people is when I feel the loneliest. I’m different compared to most so to speak because of my ADHD brain so I don’t really fit in with people. People don’t really understand me so the more people around the more excluded I feel. It sucks
     
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  4. I totally get what you are saying! Lots of times, I am super content and happy when I am on my own! It isn't until I get into a group of people that I feel lonely because I feel like such a fish out of water. I usually feel the least lonely when it is just me and maybe one or two other people
     
  5. Porn Killer

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    Yeah I always think of a phrase I came up with. “I want to be alone, but I don’t want to be lonely”.
     
  6. That is perfect! I am going to say that from now on because that perfectly describes how I feel so often. Also congrats on 23 days! I hope to be there in not too long! Keep going strong
     
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  7. Porn Killer

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    Thank you!! I’m on my phone right now and the mobile site doesn’t show the number of days. How far along are you?
     
  8. 11 days. Today has probably been my hardest day so far, just as far as being lonely, but I am going to keep going strong.
     
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    Awesome!! Keep it up. Stay strong
     

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