Spoiler: Triggering If I see a nude, I don't relapse. Change your mindset, guys. Don't be a slave of your sexual insticts. You need to be able to control your libido. If I see a sexy naked girl, I see a sexy naked girl - I don't think "omg I want to fuck her in the ass" or something like that. I see things for what they are. I see the beauty of women, not sexual objects. We live in a hyper sexualised world where girls show their tits and asses to attract men. Well fuck that. Don't be a slave of sexual insticts, if there is something that makes me mad is seeing people being unable to control themselves if they see a sexy woman in front of them. Fuck that. Be a man, be yourself, CONTROL yourself and never let a naked girl make you unable to control your libido. Test your libido by seeing pics of sexy girls or even sexual videos ( higher level ) and be able to control your libido. See women for what they are: women. They have a brain, they are able to think, they can move, they can hug someone, they can eat, they can walk. They are NOT sexual objects. Their purpose is not to be fucked in the ass. If you see a pic of a sexy girl, think in your mind that's a pic of a sexy girl and that's it. Don't hyperventilate and instantly have a boner. That's what those girls want! They want to attract you and then complain when they get sexual harassed. It is mainly because of the bullshit they do in porn videos and their sexual mind to dress in a determind way that make men being attracted constantly to them. By doing so, they also attract they hyper-sexualised pshyco ones who abused them in the streets. I hate when girls think they can walk slutty on the streets and then complain when someone catcall them and say things like "hey, nice ass girl" - Fuck you, you decided to dress like that for a point - you wanted to attract men. They complain and then they dress like that on instagram and they are happy of the followers they get ( who are mostly deperate men following them to see their asses and tits ) and will keep doing that. You see? This world is ultra-sexualised. What you need to do is to WAKE UP! Control you sexual insticts. Control yourself! Do positive and productive things instead of watching porn. You'll feel great when you and your girl will have sex, not when you see girls fucking men on a video, god damn it. Be a better person! The only moment you can free your libido to the full and enjoy sex is when you are on bed with your girl having real sex. Hope this woke you up.
I'm serious. If you want to be able to control your libido, you certainly won't test it by seeing a cat or a dog. Don't do it if you are not on that level of course. If a simple pic of a sexy girl instantly gives you a boner. But yeah, test your libido by watching pics like that and control it. Of course, if doing that will give you the urge to look at more pics, don't do it. I'm able to watch sexual videos/pics and not get a boner, and in the same time I don't have the urge to watch them. If it's not the same for you, then don't do the test. Only for people with willpower to control their libido.
I think the whole idea behind NoFap is to want to fuck that naked girl instead of going home and watching porn. Some may want to leave out that ass-thing you mention all the time or only fuck one particular naked girl... Just don't watch pics and videos to test yourself, mate.
I haven't relapsed one day in 83th days of NoFap. I don't have the urge to look at sexy pics of videos, and in the same time I'm able to watch them without having a boner. Cool, isn't it? It's all about mindsetting and control of yourself. If you just stop watching sexy stuff in the internet, it means you are running away from anything sexy, then you might just hide somewhere because the world is hyper-sexualised. What you have to do, is saying NO to being a slave of your sexual insticts. Control yourself and your libido. Cheers. Of course, if you are not on that level, don't test your libido by seeing sexy stuff. If you were an hardcore porn addict, then avoid anything sexy until your mind is clear.
I don't want to make love to a woman. I want to eat her right now I love you man, you are right! I don't want to have sex with a girl right now, I want to EAT her! haha just kidding. My libido is higher than Everest but it doesn't mean that if I see hot girls on pics, vids etc. I go to PMO. PMO is an insect that I could crush with my own hands. My libido is my power and I use it all the time, but not for PMO. I'm a lion like you mate.
@Veronico I think you misunderstood the purpose of a Reboot. Rebooting is primarily done to counter the negative effects porn watching has had on the brain. You see just viewing porn alone, without MO, still creates pathways in your brain. Your inability to get a boner, even when you see a picture of a nude woman, is not a benefit man. The simple fact is if you're still viewing nudes/pornography then you haven't been rebooting at all. Also encountering sexually stimulating media is different than searching it out. Avoiding this media when it's within your control to do so is not "running away". It's understanding the harmful effects of pornography and making healthy choices vs. unhealthy choices based on the information we have.
I have a question for you. Is a bad thing if I'm navigating around different websites (videogames, sports, etc) and I see random pics of hot girls (not nudes)? Should I avoid them?
Lol, "inability to get a boner". You understood wrong what I said. I said I'm able to see sexy pics / videos without getting a boner, not that I can't get a boner. I have a high libido, yet I don't get a boner by just seeing a pic of a naked girl, I see the girl for what she is, a girl and not a sexual object. You see the difference? The moment I am in bed with a girl I love, then let the party start and my libido gets freed. Avoiding everything sexy is not the solution to me, being able to control yourself and having a clean mindset is the solution. Obviously I repet, if you were a porn addict, avoid anything sexy for the moment until you are able to control yourself.
Are you going to these sites because you know you will encounter these pictures? If so then they are considered Psubs and should be avoided if possible. If you have no clue that these sites would have these picture then how could you avoid them? Yes. I understand the difference and thanks for the clarification. Do you see the oxymoron in telling someone to view nudes/pornographery in order to combat objectifying women? The entire purpose of these picture is to portray and display women/men as sexual objects. I'm sure there are other pics of women you could be viewing which would be conducive to what you claim you want to achieve. No ones advocated that it was the solution for anyone. If your advice is not conducive to recovering porn addicts then why are you posting your advice on a porn addiction forum?
You got it wrong mate. What I'm saying is that you need to control your libido to stop being a slave of sexual insticts. A pic of a nude woman shouldn't make you get a boner. A hot girl shouldn't make you unable to talk normally in front of you. That's what I'm saying. Control yourself and your libido. And yeah, those pics portray women as sexual objects ( and that makes me puke - I also hate the fact that those girls let themselves get portrayed as sexual objects ), but you can't just run away from those kind of pics if you see them, because you are afraid you are going to get a boner. Control yourself and say no to being a slave of your sexual insticts. That's what I'm talking about. I'm not saying that if you are able to control yourself, you can now watch those pics how much you want. NO. What I'm saying is that, if you encounter those pics, you won't get an instant boner and start thinking sexually. Of course, do something productive instead of watching naked women pics or videos. In fact, I didn't watch those pics / videos because I wanted to see a naked ass or titties, I solely watched them to test and control my libido. I wanted to say, if you were an hardcore porn addict. Someone who instantly gets a boner by seeing a pic of a nude woman. But actually, that line is for everyone who is unable atm to control himself.
I'm on HardMode mate. Maybe, some of you don't get me or probably I'm on another level. I don't have the urge to watch sexy stuff, neither want to. I'm able to not get a boner by seeing hot girls pics of videos. I work out, eat healthier and have a sharper mind. All of that in 83 days of NoFap.
What you're saying is evidence you do not understand the nature of addiction. We are not just dealing with a lack of willpower, friend. We're dealing with neuropathways and chemical imbalances which have significantly impacted our willpower. This is why addicts avoid certain people, places, and things. I would encourage you to read more on porn addiction and it's effects. You should visit the "yourbrainonporn" site.
Oh, how come I'm still on HardMode then? Also, I'm serious, I'm probably on another level. Probably you are right. Maybe it's the fact that I wasn't really an addict to porn, but I would watch it like 4 times a week still. Then how come I was able to stop watching porn instantly at the first day? I repet though, if you are struggling to control your sexual insticts, then of course, this thread is not for you.
Listen. I've never masturbated, neither had an orgasm for the whole 83 days of NoFap. But most important. I don't feel the urges to watch sexual videos/pics, neither want to. The only times I've watched sexy stuff was to test and control my libido. No sexy women pics can have control over me and make me get a boner. Fuck that. The world is ultra-sexualised, but that doesn't mean you should hide in a box because you are afraid of everything sexy around you. I will put a triggering tag for everyone who is unable to control their libido because: if you are struggling to control your sexual insticts, then of course, this thread is not for you.
