At what point do you stop hating yourself?

Hey man, I'm not too far in either but I'd reccommend you to read some if the success stories on here. They're a real encouragement. And a lot of people mention that things can get worse before they get better. So don't give up! It will only make you feel worse and take you back to square one!

 

Hey man....You might want to check out the book "Awaken the Giant". By Tony Robbins.

You've got to work on your defeatism..... Or beating this will be tough. It's a viscious cycle, since fried dopamine receptors creates a lack of joy.

Flatline can last a long time, unfortunately.

 

And what's up with depressing image at the bottom of your posts? Stop ..... inviting.....misery.

The words you think, say, hear, read ....have an affect on your brain and mood

 

Ok....good luck to you man. I hope you find some happiness.

Gotta block you ...your username, and signature image are downers. I try to stick to the success stories, and help people when I can.

Learning to manipulate how you feel is the key to success, since we turn to pmo when we don't feel good.

Every night when I go to sleep, I whisper and visualize the words.... "Healthy, happy, love", and put a little smile on my face, picture cute puppies, happy kids, etc.

If you practice being happy....you get good at it. If you practice being miserable, you get good at it. Stop practicing being miserable.

 

That picture for sure wont help you get better.

 

I had stopped hating myself years before I came to this site. You can stop hating yourself despite fapping. Just sayin'. It's not about constantly "thinking positively" (which might be good for some, but might create more imbalance than balance for others), but about getting to know some of the hidden automatic mechanisms in your psyche that make you feel the way you do. Of course negative emotions can be overwhelming, but it is possible to see through them when you carefully watch your thoughts. Even if you're mostly feeling down, there has to be a little movement in your mood, a little up and down. (With healthy ups other than PMO & co.) The question is: What is going on in your head the moment your mood is going down? May be you can shed some light on it. In your own mind. May be there is a tiny little glimpse of a mechanism, though faint, which you can grasp. As soon as you are able to discover this automatic mechanism, it will lose power over you. A thought which, once occurred, used to brutally pull you down will then act a lot more mildly on you. At least that's the way it worked for me, I think

 

Re: this^ It's worth bearing in mind that a thought precedes an emotion.

So, identify what thoughts you had at the moment your mood plummets.

 

This is perfectly described. Do you practice meditation or some other spiritual things? Read maybe book called "Power of now" by Eckhart Tolle?

 

Thanks! Yeah, you could say I'm into spirituality. I'm not the only one on this site. I have some meditation experience, but mostly I'm just 'practicing' mindfulness, or let's call it living I never read Eckhart Tolle, but I like to hear his voice on YouTube sometimes, it's soothing. I've been watching my thoughts since 2007 or so

 

Yes THF, I think I would lose the picture with the hanging noose. I see it as a coping mechanism which helps deal with the pain. The problem is seeing it won't point you in the right direction.
I like that you lay it all out though. Keep moving forward.

 

The answer lies in the time but the most probable answer is never, I will never see that day when I will stop hate myself..if anything I deserve in life after what all I have done all these year is jut suffering, hatred, pain, misery,etc...
life is something just like 1 or 0,so if I don't wanna love myself ever in my life I'am just left with the option of hating myself...

 

Yes, The Power of Now is really a good book! Listen to it, it will give you an other view on things. It helped me so much, when i was depressed 2 years ago.

When you stop watching porn maybe your mood gets even worse, but that's only because you stop repressing your emotions. And you can only transform these emotions if you don't repress them.

And don't believe this postive thinking bullshit. It's basically like the watching porn mechanism. You repress your negative thoughts and then they wander to your subconscious mind. And there they are WAY more powerful.

Don't compare yourself with others.