At Day 27, and I cant recall having urges!

So I'm almost at a month mark now, and I feel very positive. In regards to this streak I started at the very end of 2015 to start a life without porn. I've been a part of this community since the summer of 2015 and I've learned a lot about myself. From starting my journey I thought winning was all about will power, but its not. I then thought that beating the addiction to PMO or any use of P and any M'ing was based on keeping yourself super busy and building discipline, that's not the answer. I then got to a point where I started to look more inward towards my emotional self and my mind and how it works... And I found the key for handling my addiction and eliminating it. Being able to accept your emotions instead of suppressing them, and really integrating the rest of your being with your emotional body is the key. With that said, building discipline and having will power are crucial to beating the addiction but they can never be the foundation for eliminating it for good. Since I've started this new streak I've really been focusing on connecting with my emotional self. Whenever I would use porn it was mostly due to emotions I was trying to suppress; emotions that for the most part were negative emotions like anger, fear, sadness, loneliness, etc. The emotional part of your brain is a part of you and when it cries out you cant just put it off and ignore it or water it down with devices such as porn and a host of other drugs. It is part of you, and as such it deserves love and attention as well. Often times culture tells men to not show their emotions or that emotions are a sign of weakness, on the contrary, emotions are a gift and when self integration happens great things happen. I'm not saying I'm fully out of my addiction yet, I believe that is a point you don't fall into one day; it happens slowly over time. I believe that when I build the habits that keep me from using porn and suppressing emotions are done at the subconscious level then I can say I'm free of my addiction. I'm getting closer to that point in my life. Any questions for how I've managed to find a way out of urges just shoot me a question. Best wishes guys and gals!

 

Sure, thing bud. I just haven't set up any accountability partners yet, but if you know how to do it that fine. I'll get back to you if I find it.