Are these problems related to porn or masturbation?

Hey! This website is filled with people that keep saying they will help, most of them do not know what you mean and just go with their experience. I've literally had your life, just still virgin and one year younger. I'm feeling really bad myself for the same problems, the deal is that i don't feel fitting in a lot of spots because depression, overthinking, bullying, loneliness and stuff make you grow a shitton, and that is very sad. Right now i'm in what they call to be the Flatline of nofap and so all this stuff is coming back up. I have a big issue, i have nobody that i can relate with as a brother, practically have 0 REAL friends that i would spend time in, I feel a lot like the solution for me could be to get a girl but it just feels like running away from this problems is not going to make me feel better. You must accept that you're not normal anymore, and don't get me wrong, you're a guy that has lived too much of his life too early. If you want, since i feel like we're in the same situation and we have the same ego we can chat a bit when you want to or need it. But a big chunk of what you're passing is because of porn. Practically with porn, games, instagram and short term emotions you're stimulating your dopamine and practically feeling like you're always right on something of what you're doing wrong; don't keep messing your existance and try to have fun, when you feel like you could fap just go out even with your parents if needed or start studying, for me studying excercising and meditating work a lot but i still feel alone. I've had a friend that I practically had been using just to do things that i wanted to do with girls and so i was slowly turning to the other side aswell. Listen to me, the more stuff you starting from nofap, the more stuff will get fixed. Do not force yourself too much, it's not worth, just force yourself when you're trying to improve

 

Let go of all the psycho-babble stuff, it's holding you back, you're making yourself a victim. Forgive the people who hurt you and move on. Yes, PMO will ruin your life let it go, start rebooting.

 

Well here's the thing, social anxiety is painful and hard to deal with but do you really think PMO will make it better? It will only amplify it and make you more withdrawn and unable to cope. What specifically are you afraid of that causes you to become anxious? How do you know that PMO is the solution to this social anxiety in any way?

 

I would think your social anxiety and PMO are intimately linked -- the longer you reboot and abstain the better you will get as your confidence increases and you begin engage with people again in a normal fashion.

 

Just some days ago I sadly lost connection with one of my oldest friends, the problem is that when you have so much stuff inside you, feeling good with somebody would mean telling them everything or a lot about your past but people's ego is way too big to stand it. The other problem is that you could fall into complaining and that would mean making people go around you or just try and dodge conversations; finding friends is also a lost of balance so somebody, like me, could accidentaly make the connection too "deep" if you get what I mean.
I've found that for me, to find confort, i must face unconfort and hatred. Obviusly the easy way out is just to fill up your days so much that you don't have to think, and surely you can do that but I think that you can't understand the weight of something until you actually think about it. We are young and also have those funny ormonal crisis that i think could be the reason behind a lot of stuff. I got cyberbullied, i was only 10 and made friends with people around 16 but also 22yo guys, they bullied me all day long and made fun of me, but since sometimes they gave me back satisfaction i stayed with them. I probably have passed this but i think that most of my attitudes, like hating people younger than me, come from there.
What I would reccomend you is to try and stop using instagram, playing videogames bla bla. I'm from Italy, where are you from?

 

You come off in your posts as very arrogant and condescending. You act like PMO is the cause of everyone's issues and simply quitting the PMO will fix everything without having a shred of evidence to base that on. Folks that have never had a PMO issue suffer from social anxiety. This isn't a PMO caused condition. But your posts makes it seem as if that's the way you think things work.

 

That was a very condescending thing to say, I think you are projecting. In what way is PMO helping his social anxiety? It certainly can't be helping it and how will he know if it's not making it worse if he doesn't quit? You may not like what I'm about to start saying because I've declared war on this issue - you may want to go find a safe and happy place.

 

BTW I'm from Alabama - so you may just want to back off because you got to come to T-town this year and it's gonna get out of hand quick if you catch my drift.

 

I never said PMO was helping his situation. But even if he stops and gets rid of PMO he's not just going to magically not have social anxiety. It doesn't work like that. That's not the way the brain works. And I'm perfectly fine. I just don't appreciate folks jumping to assumptions the way you did with him and with me in a different thread.

 

Personal threats of violence on a message board? Feel better now? I wasn't trying to start anything with you, just trying to let you know how you come off in your posts in a rather nice way.

 

Try Vipassana Meditation. It really helped me deal with just being okay with being alone.