I agree 100% with @NorthernWarrior I think the major point is to rewire our brains to their natural state and doing things by CHOICE ( which means with consciousness of the outcome) not acting by our urges. Behind our addiction to porn we should analyze what causes this addiction. Ask yourself > why do I like such porn category this can give you a clue of why u search this kind of thing. For example why I like group sex category? Maybe because I wanna socialize with friends share good moments with them and as don´t have so many friends on my real world that I trust to hanging out with I prefer watch people having fun on the internet than cheat my girlfriend by partying with prostitutes with my friends! We really have analyze the relationship between our fantasies and what we want to do with it - make it real if this makes you feel good and make you move forward, a better person or stop fantasize those fantasies that make us feel miserable by doing new things like learning a new language, new skill, read new books. At the beginning can be boring but stick with you new routine ´cause once you create a new habit you will see how far you went with it! GET OUT OF YOU COMFORT ZONE!! You are what you BELIEVE do not let addiction defines you, nobody is perfect.
Back when I was a regular fapper, I had the same thoughts. Masturbating to girls I knew felt taboo for me--it felt like I was violating their dignity. I did not have qualms about masturbating to porn starts or glamour models, since if those women are getting naked in front of a camera, I would think that they are giving me implicit "permission" to masturbate to their image. Maybe its silly, but I think perhaps that this mental process prevented me from degrading myself all the way.
Okay so I didn’t see anything here specific to this question here so I gotta ask. I had/have a fetish for fat chicks and while I was having sex with this girl the other night (47days hard mode at that point) I noticed I wasn’t hard enough to penetrate and I resorted to fantasizing. It helped out a lot and we had sex three times. I’ve had pied for a year before this even with my ex girl of 8 months. At least now I was able to have sex again but I’m curious if this is something to be avoided since I read I should be able to get hard by touch alone. PS: I didn’t come any of the times we had sex but she did every time
I believe they're certainly okay, and I'll go as far as saying they're even healthy. I don't want to live my life like a sexless letch! My thoughts are, the more addicted to porn I got, my sexual fantasies became more and more unachievable. It was no longer fantasizing about kissing that pretty girl, I was fantasizing about that pretty girl wearing some bizarre outfit she'd never voluntarily choose to wear, tying me up naked, spitting on me, and then fucking me with a strap-on (and this would be one of the more tame fantasies). I'm close to 30 days into the reboot, and I'm fantasizing about pretty girls I see, but the difference is the fantasies are mostly about taking them on a date, kissing, and maybe getting to see her naked. The reboot hasn't taken my libido away at all, but it has hugely (HUGELY) helped me stop fantasizing about extreme situations that only happen on the internet.
Haha jeeze man thanks that’s what I figured tho. My guess is just to keep rewiring and focusing on the moment more.
Best not to fantasize about such things as it can cause one to relapse. I try to focus on other things like my hobbies: sport climbing - fantasize about climbing tougher routes hiking - planning outings with my wife and friends
Can’t go walking around fantasizing and objectify everything, plus it’ll just make your reboot that much harder. Be clean.
Lucky you.. To me it does exactly the opossite, it makes me extremely horny and I just can't fall asleep.
