Finally, on my last day of school I approached this really cute girl. I did most of the talking and I could tell she was shy. I had never seen or met her before but I just went for it. I got her name and we had small talk and a goodbye. The entire time I wasn't even nervous but I was happy and she was smiling too. This is a big improvement from the last time I approached a girl because I used to freeze up. It was a great experience and I look forward to flirting with more girls lol.
Yeah, it's true. As for me, my old self before I discovered pmo was a very optimistic and cheerful guy and I would be able to talk to any girl instantly. But over time, after 1 year + of pmo.. It really drained me of all energy, outgoingness and filled me with shyness and I really struggled to become my old self. Now that I have discovered this site, I realized all that I needed to do is reboot and stop pmo for good if I wanted to be my old self, and even though it's been only 6 days.. I feel my energy getting into me once more. So keep up the good fight bro
I need to start approaching. I've only approached in school environment. What do or could I say as my opener?
"Hey, I saw you and I just really want to talk to you because you look cute and I want to know if you're cool"
yeah, a bunch of times because it felt authentic to me. And yes, every weekend and every monday with my running group
Oh dude, was so scary I felt like I was about to die. But that was a few years ago, now it's not scary, it's just the matter of motivating myself to do it.
It's gonna be tough at first but once you get enough practice in, you can approach with confidence. You should have seen me 2 years ago, I'm like a different person now lol.
The number one rule is to NEVER think about what you're gonna say. This leads to over thinking and making predicted situations in your head. Women like it when you approach them, they might not say it but they do. This is because, just like men, some of us prefer to be approached rather than to do the approaching. So when you do the approaching it shows confidence. And finally, NEVER say "I could've". Don't miss opportunities and if you're feeling it then go for it! If you need an example, this is what I used the last time I attempted to flirt. Me:Hi (takes her awhile to notice me) Her:Hi Me:You're really cute, what's your name? (Not gonna use her real name lol) Her:Nancy Me: I'm (your name of course) Make sure you have a topic in mind, I chose school and asked her about sports too. Just basic stuff. Then you basically pick up the convo from there. If either of you don't have the time to chat very long, try and get her phone number so you can talk more. Talking is a way of connection so the more you talk to her the better chance you have of either being a mutual friend or a boyfriend.
My first approach was awful. I could barely raise my voice, plus she eventually just ignored me lol. I forgot the most important tip: ALWAYS SMILE Smiles are attractive.